I have to vent - my future husband's dad and stepmom RSVP'd no to our rehearsal dinner. They're not coming because they're "entertaining" an aunt and grandparents that are attending the wedding and since we didn't include them (grandparents or aunts and uncles) in the rehearsal dinner, they decided it would be best not to come. We wanted to include more extended family but we would have had like 50 people at the rehearsal dinner and we just couldn't afford to accommodate that many (we have 30 with the wedding party and parents and siblings).
We have an 11am ceremony start time on Feb 9 (11 days!) and they plan to make the 2.5 hour drive the morning of. It just feels like a slap in the face for parents to show up 30 minutes before the ceremony like any other guest. There is a little bit of bad blood between the dad, stepmom and my FH's best man (who happens to be my FH brother) they had a huge falling out last summer. But it seems harsh to punish us because they're not getting along with the best man. It's so frustrating because they've shown zero interest in our wedding and this is just the latest thing in a long line of disappointments from them. They literally haven't asked how wedding planning is going or offered to help on anything. It's hard not to take it personally. I had gifts and things I planned to give them and my FH was going to do a dance with his stepmom but not anymore since they obviously don't care. I'm just trying hard to focus on the people who are actaully excited for us and are making effort to be there.