Does anyone else deal with strange cycles and issues they fear will hamper conception? My FH and I are getting married this September 2021. He will be 34 and I will be 32. I will then turn 33 in January of 2022. If I were a bit younger, I would wait until an entire year of marriage or longer to start trying, but as it is, we plan to start trying in July next year because I strongly suspect I'm either infertile or there is something that is going to make it incredibly difficult to conceive. I will be 33 and we will have been married for ten months.
For most of my life, I've had pretty short cycles but throughout my late teens, early twenties and middle twenties it averaged out somewhere around 25/26 days consistently, which is fine in my head. As I hit my late twenties and early thirties, I had more frequent bouts of 24, 23, 22, and 21 day cycles. I sometimes have intermittent spotting between periods. These issues have gotten worse since I had a copper IUD placed - like much worse but I expected that. I mean, I get a period every month so I guess that is something. I've spoken to my OB and she ran some preliminary tests such as hormone testing and even an intravaginal ultrasound. She did not find anything. Everything looked normal as far as the tests she did. She did not see signs of perimenopause and I don't really have any other signs of early onset menopause. I'm afraid to keep asking her to look because it's not like there would be much we could right now if my body does not really work right.
Heck, even as I type this, I have mild cramps and just had spotting 2 days ago on only cycle day 19. It's only day 21 now and I'm probably going to get AF at earliest tomorrow. Is anyone else dealing with something similar or does anyone else have stories about having whacky cycles and still having children just fine? I guess I'm just looking for reassurance at this point because I don't feel like continuing to pursue any kind of testing is going to do me any good.