Feelings on Prenups

My aunt keeps suggesting that I get a prenup because of her past experiences. I see the value in having it if one or both parties have their own assets or business that they want to protect incase of a separation. I don’t have my own business or any valuable assets, and maybe I don’t know enough about prenups, so I don’t really see the need of having one in my own situation.

I dont personally find them offensive just because i am also realistic in that sense. but i do know some people are really offended by it because they feel like you dont trust them or trust that the relationship will sustain but i feel like all it is is protecting your assets and best interests and that isnt necessarily deemed as selfish but can be viewed as it

My 2nd marriage as well. We have not completed a pre nup yet but have been discussing. I do not see divorce as an option but I am older now and have worked hard to get to where I am and understand it is important to protect myself and my children in case of unforeseen circumstances. Totally understand and think most of us Going into a 2nd marriage would understand

There's nothing fundamentally wrong with pre-nups... and I'd MAJORLY side eye anyone that said there was.

They may not be for everyone, depending on financial situations at the time of marriage, etc., but protecting yourself is never a bad idea.

View Quoted Comment Stick with your gut and get the prenup. I like what someone said about it’s for both of your own protection. It’s better to have this mature conversation now, before you enter into marriage, then after the fact and wish you had.

First of all marriage is about trusting each other. Don't let him read your initial message. A prenup is a good idea but first of all don't tell him you don't trust him even if you are pissed off at him. Is he after your money and your kids? Do you see yourself married to him forever? Do you or him spend beyond your means? Before I got married I wrote out a prenup she agreed to it but I never made her sign it. I realized after being married she was not after my money. When I convinced my wife to almost sign the prenup she felt as if I didn't trust her and that may make your man sad or pissed off and leave you.

I mean no one likes to talk about the subject. but it is a valid and important thing. i think he might be taken aback a little bit at first. but just calmly explain all your feelings. i'm sure he knows what you are going through with your ex. even if it takes him longer than you'd like i think he will come around. you don't plan on getting a divorce but you can't put yourself or kids through that again without a safety net.

I don't think you are being crazy. Prenups are never a fun topic to talk about but you aren't the only person who will be apart of your fiancé's life. You have kids and I think if you bring it up for the point of protecting your kids and making sure they are taken care of no matter what, I think that it is noble and he hopefully will understand.

Man that's tough...but I can totally see why you want to have this set in place. I think you should have the conversation...this is one of those times where it'll be a test of your communication, understanding and openness with one another. It's definitely going to be hard but if you guys truly are in this for the long run then it shouldn't be anything but a piece of paper.


Just like marriage. I feel like for my spouse and I, marriage is amazing but it's just signing a document that officially links us together. We're still solid without the piece of paper. Because your at this stage, hopefully he'll be able to understand the situation. He loves you so have that conversation. Good luck!