Feeling sad about low attendance

Yep, we invited 276 and have 124 people coming. Less than half...

I have sent out our wedding invites yet. We are planning 150 but I'm guessing closer to 100. I have people that live 4 hours away. I have two guests that are pregnant so if they go early and already heard about 10 won't be making it. This is all before invites go out. Honestly I hope we get 100 or less. Best of luck and please try and enjoy your day and spend time with those that made time for you.

Do you have a B list you could work off of?
im honestly celebrating just about every no because we’re way over lol. I also didn’t want the big wedding due to anxiety and this being my second. Fh wanted it all as it’s his first and only so he got it.
Most of the list is his, I only invited vips and obligatory family. Most my people I knew would say no have, and the majority are making great lengths to come.
im glad we don’t have any minimum or anything. We’re over the recommendations maximum guest count for invites. So no is a good answer. I’d love 125-150 in attendance.

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I'm worried about being in a similar situation! We committed to the minimum, thinking we could hit it and now I think we might fall just barely short. We haven't sent out invitations yet but are anticipating this will happen. I totally feel you on the disappointment. I'm disapointed by some people who already said no as well. Good luck and congrats! You get to celebrate with the person you love!

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I AM PRAYING FOR THESE NUMBERS! We ended up doing the same as you but I don't want a huge wedding or the bill that comes with it. The benefits of having a "smaller" wedding hugely outweigh the big ones at least in my book.

OP I can certainly understand your disappointment but your wedding will be beautiful regardless of how many guests you have!

It can be a rotten feeling. But try not to let it get you down too far. As for some of the guests who aren't coming, who knows what their situation could be like at the moment. Maybe they are sick and don't want anyone to know. Maybe they don't have the extra money to travel. Maybe they can't get off work. Or maybe they're just being jerks. Either way, you'll still have a great time and at the end of the day, you'll still be married and starting an exciting, new chapter of your life.

View Quoted Comment I wish this was the case for me but I am paying per table and I had to reserve a minimum number of 15. So whether people show up or not, I still have to pay

Please don't feel sad. This is your special day and you need to be happy and enjoy! Those people will be attending will have a great time enjoying your special day!!!

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How is what I said "not fair?" All I was saying is that the people who are coming care about her and will help make sure it is a great day...

View Quoted Comment I think the issue is that it implies those who RSVP "no" don't care. There are many valid reasons to RSVP "no" while still caring for the couple a great deal. I think it's important to not take the no's personally and not let it effect the relationship with the person who can't make the wedding.

Aww, I can understand that this stings. Yes, people have extenuating circumstances and reasons they can't come, but it's still hard not to take it personally sometimes. But I think you will still have a great wedding. You'll be so happy marrying the love of your life, starting a new chapter, and celebrating with the group that is there, that you won't even be thinking about who isn't there. You can't do anything about the people who decline, just focus on the positive!

I will feel this way if VIPs decline (although most of them are in the wedding party so there's small chance of this happening!), but other than that, I'm secretly hoping for a lot of declines. We are inviting about 110, and I will be thrilled if we end up with 75-80. I mean, yeah, I want people to be there, but since we are paying per person for bar and food, having a good chunk of declines will cut our costs SO much.

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That's not what I was trying to say in my response at all lol. Never said people who decline don't care. People read into these posts and responses way too seriously.

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Well, wouldn't this sort of be the reason why?

It's a little awkward to throw out that you feel 'unimportant' when you're throwing your wedding where most of your guests don't live. Maybe they don't want or can't afford a hotel, the Friday off from work, finding someone to watch the kids...

Just be happy that you're having a wedding and you're getting married. It shouldn't matter whether you have 1 guest or 100... you're getting married. That's all that matters...