Feeling sad about low attendance

I'm sorry you're experiencing that. Just remember the ones who are there care enough about you to come and will make it a great day!

If it makes you feel better, we invited 226 and already have 31 "no" RSVPS. We have 69 "yes" and are waiting on the rest. I went to a wedding in 2017 with 70 people, it was very fun and felt more intimate!

I'm sorry Mariah! You will still have an amazing day! I didn't invite as many people but we will likely have around 70 attending. Maybe you can put the money you or family have saved by having a lower guest count towards something even better!

View Quoted Comment This isnt fair. I'm sure a lot of people who cant come still care, there are just extenuating circumstances that keep them from attending.

OP, you are totally allowed to be disapointed. However, I'd let yourself feel it and then move on so it doesnt hinder your day. I'm sure you'll have a great wedding.

Quality vs. Quantity!

The people who will be in attendance all love and care for you and will be there to see this beautiful day!

I have definitely found out who my friends are throughout the past couple months of wedding planning and receiving RSVP's...I try not to let it get me down because as long as my immediate family, bridal party and my fiance are there...I am good

We invited 146 and we are getting about 95! I wanted a smaller wedding to begin with but we just couldn't do it without offending so many people... all our VIPs are coming so I am honestly glad that we'll get to have the feel of a small wedding (more intimate and I'll actually get to spend time with some of my guests rather than just walking by and saying hello to every table) and relieved that we don't have to pay for 146 people!

You will have a lovely day regardless of who is there. Look at it glass-half-full... there are 60 people who WILL be there for you! In the end, you will remember only who was there, and how happy you were to celebrate with those who could make it

I know me well enough to know I'm going to take it personally. You're not alone. Somehow, someway I'll find something else to keep focus on. If there is enough time and you have a few extra people you wanted to invite, now's your chance. Or make more space between tables to make the room fuller. Add a couple pieces of decor.
It hurts. Im sorry. There are blessings behind it too. Might get to interact with guests more, sit down for a minute, and there's always "oh that stinks but there's x amount of money not spent".

I played violin at a wedding where they invited like 65 and only 15 could come so they lost their venue and had to book a private room at a restaurant. Even then some people didn’t show. They didn’t say anything to me, but I’m sure this wasn’t their dream. I would just enjoy your guests who do come!

View Quoted Comment Unfortunately our venue has a "minimum" that we have to meet. This is pretty much all inclusive of food, alcohol, linens, tables, etc etc etc. So we still have to spend the same amount of money as we were going to originally. I guess the plus side is that we've upgraded our menu to the fanciest one and are using only top shelf stuff. So it will be good food!

View Quoted Comment There you go! I would be impressed by that as a guest and a bride! Quality people, quality time, AND top quality spread.

We have about 130 on our guest list and some were families of 4 and 5 who cancelled. I have about 59 RSVPed but that's ok! It only means the people who need to be there will be there. I know some of those who declined isn't because of finances or because they can't take off but I'm not letting it damper my day!

We invite 115 and it looking like we're going to land around 74 (there's two more people home hoping for but...). My FH is probably taking it harder than me as the low-responses are from his childhood friend group. Best you can do is smile and remember that those who are there are there because they love you and support you and will make it a GREAT day!

I understand where you are coming from, but on the bright side, you will save money not paying for 115 guests. Instead, you will pay for 65!!

I definitely know what you are feeling! We are having a destination wedding so almost all of our guests will be travelling. When we booked the date and location, a lot of people were excited and going to go (some even booked a place to stay). However, life gets in the way and more than half are not coming. I knew a lot would not show up, but I was shocked about some of them. I was a little annoyed at a couple people who were excited, received the save the date, and then rsvped no and when I inquired (only since they said they were going), they said that they booked a vacation for that date. So I was a little annoyed about those since it was not like it was planned beforehand.

However, I know that even if I had it where we live, a lot of people would still be travelling and unable to come so it really was a no win situation.

View Quoted Comment This sounds really similar to our situation. We're not really having a destination wedding, but moved to a new city right before we got engaged and decided to have the wedding here. So only 10 of our guests live in our city and even out of those only 6 are coming.

View Quoted Comment No, unfortunately we won't save money ☹️. Our venue has a minimum that we have to meet, that we were just barely meeting with an estimate of 90 people. So we will still have to pay the same amount. Oh well.well just have great food and booze instead of the mid level stuff.

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Geezzz!!! Your venue is kind of harsh! I hate that you are going through this!

I'm so sorry, we're also experience that too. A lot of my FHs family is out of state and many are "considering" coming out for the wedding. There's also a few from my side who are debating about going to my wedding or my cousin's which is the following week in a different state. Don't even get me started on that....

View Quoted Comment I agree with you! This is definitely the case.

No, didn’t happen to me because I’m only inviting our VIP’s.