Feeling like no one cares about our wedding: Vent

I'm glad you posted this bc I agree no one is going to care like you do. My MOH lives out of town. My mom lives out of town, so the two close ppl to me are not here. I expressed to my mom I don't feel the support. This week I feel like I'm doing this all alone. FH no help either. He wants to get married, but he has a lot of things going on ex. Lost job, hunting for a job stressful for months, he now has a job (thank God), he recently moved last week. Hopefully now he can jump on board with planning. We'll see. Good luck to you.

I feel yah. I kinda feel like my extended family doesn't care about my wedding. Several of them have made it known that they just can't be bothered to drive an hour and a half for it. Oh well. I just remind myself that it's fewer people that I have to pay for and it means I'll be celebrating with the people who really do care. Also, that's super shite on your BM's part. Why host if you clearly don't want to?

Hold on to each other and pray your bridal party will start showing some excitement and getting on the ball with what they need to do sorry your going through this.

@Elphaba, the shower is on August 6th and the invitations are out with an RSVP deadline of 7/31 so it's too late to change it at this point and that is really shitty that your FH's family only really recognized BIL's wedding and congratulated him on it, I'm sorry I would definitely be upset too.

Why was the BM who is hosting not able to go? That's ridiculous. Sorry that happened!

Aside from that, like you already said, no one is going to be as excited as you both will be. Do you have family that's helping you plan the wedding? That may help them be more excited. No one is helping FH and I plan so no one is as excited as we are.

Just try to focus on what you need to for the wedding. Everyone in the wedding party will get what they need to and if they don't they aren't in the wedding party. This is supposed to be a happy time for you and your SO. Try not to think about others. They all will be excited for you the day of.

This is basically just how I feel as well Johanna. There are so many times where I want to say screw it and have a destination wedding just the two of us. Planning this wedding has been heartbreaking because it has just made me realize how much people don't care. I've been wedding dress shopping by myself because nobody seems to have time to go with me. It seems more of an inconvenience to everyone than a day that supposed to be about us.

I'm so sorry you have to go through this.. I cannot believe the BM won't be there either..