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Master November 2015

Feeling insecure about my lingerie shower...

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OriginalRandi, on June 10, 2015 at 4:44 PM

Ok so on the positive side, I just found out I'm getting a lingerie shower - yay! I'm SO thankful and have always thought a lingerie shower would be so fun. But suddenly, now that I know I actually am having one, I feel overwhelmingly uncomfortable with the thought of actually opening the gifts and showing my guests (who will include women in my family) sexy stuff I'll be, ya know, using to entice and arouse my husband. I feel like I would rather just have the party and not unwrap the gifts until I'm alone and in private. And only show my best friend. Maybe. I'm sort of confused at myself because I never anticipated having an issue with this. And the opening of the lingerie is like the biggest part of a freaking lingerie shower, right?

Is it valid to feel this way? Can I not open the gifts at the shower and just have a fun lingerie-themed party with everyone? Or am I being completely ridiculous and need to get over myself? Bring on the brutal honesty. Thanks ladies.

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they/them pigeon · on June 10, 2015 at 8:55 PM
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I would recommend getting fitted at a local (non-chain) lingerie boutique over Nordstrom -- department stores often get sizes wrong. Look on Yelp for a highly rated one in your area.

I think it's perfectly valid to be a bit embarrassed about opening stuff you'll use for sexual purposes in front of people you're not in sexual relationships with. It's perfectly valid *not* to, too. This is highly individual and your feelings are your feelings. Can you tell the host you're feeling a bit anxious about it? Maybe they can make it just a regular bridal shower? IDK how these things work.
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OriginalRandi · on June 11, 2015 at 8:26 AM
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Annakay - this thread is helping me relax about the whole idea of the shower

And thank you for your thoughtful response, Kay! I appreciate the fitting tip and will definitely look into that. And I could talk to the hosts, but they're very excited about doing this for me, and just getting my thoughts out on here has already helped me relax a bit. Plus I'd love to have that lingerie, lol Thanks again.
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JaKLyn · on June 11, 2015 at 8:44 AM
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I went to FH's cousin's in October (about 2 hours after meeting her). It was a blast. Most people kept it tasteful. The only one who got a little wild was her grandma and we all found it hilarious. They had a few bottles of wine out and it was just a really fun and relaxing time. Our favorite gift was from her godmother. She gave her some scented candles for "mood lighting", and a pair of footy pajamas completes with teddy bear feet. Apparently the bride hid it until their honeymoon and debuted it there, which I'm sure was a surprise to her husband.
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OriginalRandi · on June 11, 2015 at 8:55 AM
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Ohhhh how cute JaKLyn I like that idea a lot. And that's too funny about her grandma - I have an aunt who'll be there and she may well be that character at mine. Thanks for sharing - I'm really starting to look forward to this.
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