Feeling insecure about my lingerie shower...

Lauren HAHAHAHAHA. My mom is actually going to be there, which I am weirdly ok with ironically. (How weird are my feelings on this whole thing?!?!?) She's super cool and amazing. And my teenage little sister is my MOH so my mom has graciously stepped up to be in essence a co-MOH and is helping with my showers...it's amazing and special and they are wonderful to me. But my FMIL will most. definitely. not. be. there. Just that thought gives me the shivers.

Wander - OH MAN I cannot imagine going to one that young. That would have scarred me for life as a kid haha. Holy moly.

And oh wow Rachel I have never heard that, in real life or in WW! That's such a compliment; thank you.

Yea I would be down for my mom to be there but not my FMIL....I love her but no.

Yeah exactly! Actually it was hilarious because I was talking with my mom about how to keep including FMIL and my mom actually volunteered to fly FMIL down here for my bridal shower (case in point: my mom's amazing coolness). Then this conversation happened-

Mom: "And if we fly her down for the bridal shower we should have the lingerie shower on the same day and she will get to come to both!"

Me: "..................you want her to come to the party where I get sexy stuff to arouse her son?"

Mom: ".......

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............No."

lol

Another way to think of it is that one of the girls at the party have already seen at least one of the gifts (if they didn't shop together). So, they already know. I think it'd be weird if you modeled it or something --- but just pulling it out of the box shouldn't be too scandalous. It's like phallic cookies and other bridal shower shenanigans. You could also put in a request for cute pajamas. I know my FH sometimes likes some of my pajama sets almost if not sometimes more than lingerie and opening cute pajama sets could be fun! And more modest. I understand why you'd feel a little weird about it -- personally I'd rather pick out my own lingerie (I'm picky) -- but I feel like most guests are those kinds of parties aren't thinking too hard about what you're going to do in the lingerie if you know what I mean. Either way, do what makes you feel comfortable. That's the most important part!

Well good luck and I hope you have plenty of alcohol.

I don't think this would bother me. FH and FBIL lived together when we met, and FBIL was really specific telling his parents about how much "fun" we would have when we first started dating. It's been pretty downhill since then so not much embarrasses me anymore around them.

Kate - that's so true. Thanks for saying so! That really helps.

Elyse oh wow lol sounds like your FBIL is a peach.

I just found out that my bachelorette night is going to be a little more sexual than I would maybe like and it's stressing me out. There is also a lingerie shower involved. My mom and my fiancé's mom will be present... I'm going to need a lot of alcohol. But I totally get feeling stressed/shy about it so just try to relax and have fun! I'm hoping that works for me.

Wait whoa Jeanne your FMIL is coming to your extra-sexy bachelorette? Oh man, I don't envy you. Best of luck, hope all goes well.

My shower last weekend was half honeymoon stuff (like phrase books and swimsuits, etc.) and half lingerie...luckily all the family bought the honeymoon stuff and brought it to the shower and the friends mostly did the lingerie, but got it last minute and had it shipped directly to my house. There were a few things though and I just pretended like no one felt awkward about it...even though I'm sure some of us did! I made jokes like "Close your eyes, grandma!" because it was FH's grandma lol. But everyone gets it so it was fine. If you pretend it's no big deal, everyone else will be ok Just maybe don't go showing off the crotchless panties too much...

At the lingerie party I was at all her family and FIL were there (the female ones), so the MIL, AIL (my FH mum), cousins etc and some women she knew through church. I think as long as you can communicate that you probably won't wear crotchless panties and such, so they shouldn't waste their money on it (or bring gift receipts), you'll be good

Haha my FMIL already gave me lingerie for Christmas last year. I like the idea of lingerie parties, although I surely won't be getting one. But my issue is that I always want to try lingerie before wearing it, and sometimes you need a slight sizing adjustment. Seems like a hassle to do that with everything that people get you...

Erica and Corinne...this is great advice, thank you. I'm starting to feel better about this now. And hahaha thanks for the tips on the crotchless panties!

FutureMrsT oh wow, haha! Way to go being cool with that. And yeah, the hassle will be interesting. Kinda hoping for good luck on the sizing I guess. Also I'll be thankful to have the new items even if exchanging has to be involved.

Haha @Randi it wasn't supposed to be sexy! It was supposed to be dinner and dancing/bars. And the mothers were going to bow out after cocktail hour and dinner. But now there is some sort of sexy class or presentation (that's what I've been told, I don't know what it is) that is happening before dinner as well as lingerie gifts. My mother in law is wonderful and I know she'll be fine about it but I'm definitely still super nervous.

I guess I was out of the loop on this, maybe it is just not a popular thing in my circles. But if it is a normal thing, and you have been a guest to such as party, then I would hope it wouldn't be anything to be insecure about. Though I do agree that having your FMIL there would be awkward.

I know I would feel awkward if my mom and FMIL were at my lingerie shower! But it might be fun and laughs... just be sure to keep a glass or two of wine nearby to ease any nervousness.

Jeanne haha oh wow! Well I'm glad your girls want to spoil you.

pinguino - yeah, you're right, that's true. I guess I had just started overthinking it. And I am SO thankful I'm not having my FMIL there...until this thread, I had no idea that anybody would ever have their FMIL at their lingerie shower, ha. I love her to pieces but oh man that would feel so weird.

Catherine - yeah, you're right. I'm lucky FMIL won't be there, and honestly the people there will be really fun. I'm starting to get over myself

I think you're being a bit prudish and over-thinking it! I mean....don't you think people assume you and FH have sex?? lol