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Jai
VIP May 2020

Feeling hurt and angry

Jai, on April 24, 2020 at 7:14 PM

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I dont really know how to react. My FH parents wont be coming to our mini wedding on May16th due to them feeling uncomfortable because of the virus. My parents will be there, his cousin and her gf, and a few others. He is angry and hurt that they wont be there. I have no idea how to react because I...
I dont really know how to react. My FH parents wont be coming to our mini wedding on May16th due to them feeling uncomfortable because of the virus. My parents will be there, his cousin and her gf, and a few others. He is angry and hurt that they wont be there. I have no idea how to react because I can understand but at the same time am very angry. This is our first time getting married. And I know my FH and his parents dont have a great relationship because they can be negative, opinionated and nasty so he is selective about his time spent around them. Also they dont support our union because I'm biracial and their son is white. How should I handle them not coming to the wedding?
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  • Roopchandwedding
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    For health reason you have to respect their wishes. This carona is no joke, and for those who are supporting you both - that’s nice but try not to beat them up about it. A lot of people are getting sick and everyone doesn’t recover. So keep that in mind that they have to protect themselves so they can be there for your children physically. Have you offered them the opportunity to join the festivities virtually? If not consider that. Maybe set up an iPad in each chair for each of them so they can call in and be a part of your special day.
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  • Jai
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    I understand that. But to not come makes no sense. Her husband works on elevators in a HOSPITAL which is risky n they are currently house shopping in the COMMUNITY. So there is NO reason why they cant be there
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  • Roopchandwedding
    Dedicated July 2021
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    Maybe it’s a blessing that they aren’t coming. Their loss - and should be the least of your worry. Those that matter will be there, and years from now they will have to explain that to their grandchildren why they decided to be so sour on a day that was so special. Don’t beat yourself up about something that will one day be their regrets. Your FH values you and on your wedding day his presence is all that should matter. Hold your head up. You got this!
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  • Jai
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    Thanks girl! I gotta stop worrying about it. Blessings come in all forms
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  • Roopchandwedding
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    No problem. Yep pay them no mind - they did you a huge favor! Remember that. I know it’s probably easier said than done, but try not to take it out on them that they didn’t come to your wedding. Treat them with kindness. Their absence will forever be something they think about.

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  • Jai
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    I will do my best ! Like I need space from them for awhile before I see them again
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