Feeling hurt and angry

Girl I have the same mentality. I need to maintain n adapt that Attitude you have because I cant get worked up over these people. Its ashame. They r using the virus as an excuse but are still "house shopping" nd viewing houses since they are selling theirs

It’s a waste of time to loose any sleep over people who don’t like you because you happen to be born a certain color. I don’t sympathize wit them at all. They choose to be willfully ignorant and make excuses for unacceptable behavior.

View Quoted Comment I think I'm done with them after this

That’s an absolutely awful position to be in, and I’m truly sorry for you. Hurt and angry would be the least of my feelings! Ultimately, you should feel loved, supported and celebrated on your day, and while it sounds like they wouldn’t add to those feelings, I can understand both of you being upset in this situation. Would it be necessary for them to fly, or could they drive? I think your FH needs to lead the conversation with them, but he should make his position known, in a measured and clear way. If it is a matter of making sure they are taking extra precautions and staying distanced from others, figure out a way that they can be set appropriately to the side, let them know that they can wear masks, even provide them with hand sanitizer if that will help! And, if there is a reception following, maybe they feel less comfortable there—but could at least come to the ceremony and wish you both well on such an important day. I’m really sorry for you both.

It really isn’t worth the time and the stress. I give everyone the same respect they give to me. If they choose to be disrespectful I choose to decide they don’t exist. They can get a hello, good morning and good bye but anything further than that is not an option. Some people feed off negative energy, so I choose to starve them.

They shouldn’t have been invited to your wedding if they truly are racist, however, you can’t blame anyone, parents or not, for not risking their life to attend your wedding.

I’m so sorry to hear this is happening!! I would say just ignore them because they seem to want a reaction out of you. Don’t give them the satisfaction. I’m in a similar situation (biracial), we’re not getting married till August and my FH’s family is of a different background and are saying they don’t want to come bc of the virus, but yet just a few weeks ago were getting their nails done and traveling out of the country to Paris, YES during the outbreak, with a small child. So already deciding that our mid summer wedding is too risky after they have been doing all of that, I’m like CHILE plz. Anyway yeah, just ignore them and they’ll regret it.

View Quoted Comment They live 5 min away from us. And yep we will be providing hand sanitizer, anti bacterial soap etc. And he will be approaching them to discuss it further. His mom told us to send her videos and pictures...

View Quoted Comment I love your attitude. And think I will respond this way from now. Usual greetings and keep it moving

View Quoted Comment That's true. He wanted his parents there. So I understood. And yep, I agree I wouldn't want them to risk their lives. I just feel like there is more of an answer behind the virus

View Quoted Comment I believe they will regret it too!

View Quoted Comment I have to. I just feel bad for your FH. It’s difficult when it’s your parents but I really hope it takes a turn for the better.

View Quoted Comment Thanks girl! I'll keep u updated. I appreciate your support and strength. And I feel bad too but hes great and deserves to give his love n attention to people who care

That’s terrible!! Honestly I wouldn’t even want people like that at my wedding. Their loss!! Enjoy your day!! Wishing you all the best!!😊

View Quoted Comment Thanks girl! We are gonna have a great time and love each other. That's all that matters is being surrounded by people who love us

View Quoted Comment Wow... well unless they have serious underlying conditions that make going out a true, massive risk to their health, then it seems like they are just being awful for the sake of making some kind of drama, or grasping at straws. You are being incredibly considerate and thoughtful to keep everyone as safe as possible, and if they choose to keep on this path, then I’m sure they will regret it. Videos and pictures are not a substitute, and unfortunately it may not be until after the fact that they realize that. I think it’s important that your FH speaks his mind to them, for his own sake, so good for him for doing that. Ultimately they will have to own whatever decision they make, and if it leads them to making the HUGE mistake of not being there for your big day, I hope you’re able to find all the love and support you need from those around you.

View Quoted Comment Thanks girl! N nope they are perfectly healthy. My mom is diabetic and will be there. I believe they will regret it too. He is their only son

Only child too

View Quoted Comment That’s how I should’ve done it from the beginning of my relationship.


DH’s mom didn’t welcome me to her family because I am biracial, my parents are divorced, and my parents didn’t have money (so do they at that time she judged me). I got pregnant with her son, and we decided to be responsible and get married.
I tried 17 years to be submissive and extra patience with her, but couple years ago I dropped the bomb and I blocked her from my life. My life is soooo peaceful without negativity she tried to put into my marriage. Too long of a story, too many drama and pain she caused me, but I am very happy DH finally (after 21 years of marriage) realized that I tried and I am done with her, and I do not want to hear anything about her ever again. The end.
Better to have your wedding and marriage drama free! Be happy. Don’t let negativity ruins your happiness. That’s all I can suggest you.
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View Quoted Comment Thanks mama! Appreciate the guidance. We will be appreciative of the support we have and kick the others to the curb. No time for negativity here. Cant people please anymore