Feeling disappointed by my friends

I guess I feel so down because I have made such an effort to make it to every one of my friend's events - baby showers, their kid's birthday parties, birthday dinners, etc. I just feel unimportant to them and it makes me sad that no one can make an effort to come to an event for me.

I also feel like I am going to look like such a loser to the in laws!

I'm sorry to hear that.i don't really have friends so I wouldn't even have any to invite..lol.. Smile, you have your FH and that's all that matters.

It sucks, I feel you, but you cant expect people to act the same way you do.

A lot of brides come on here disappointed no one offered them a shower period, so please keep that in mind.

I'm so sorry. If my future in laws threw a party for us (which they wouldn't) I wouldn't even know who to invite. Most of our guests are mutual friends and I'm not really close to any of them. I hope they reconsider and make an effort. You deserve an amazing party.

@OG Kathryn - very true!! I didn't think anyone would offer us a shower, so I feel very lucky to have his family.

Erin- No one DESERVES an amazing party. Just saying.

I'm sorry. I understand your disappointment. I'm sure it will be a good day though! Try not to think about it and enjoy your day!

@O&S - they just sent out the invites about 4-5 weeks in advance. Had it been me, I would have wanted them sent out about 2 months in advance, but I'm not going to tell someone who is offering a party in our honor when to send out invites! I do understand that the other two friends had already made plans.

2 months in advance would have been too much time, IMO. My MOH sent out my invites with only 7 days notice LOL. I agree with OGA and O&S.

It's ok to be bummed. It is a tough time of year for those with kids, so many activities and such. Just be happy that a smaller showers is easier

I'm sorry to hear that. I completely understand your disappointment. It's normal to feel that way, especially since you are someone who has made many efforts to be there for all the big events. Unfortunately, not everyone is like that, but remember that it does not mean they do not care about you! Especially once people have kids, their schedules can fill up really quickly, and their ability to travel for things without their spouse can be difficult. I am glad your old co-worker is coming.

You won't look like a loser to your future in-laws. If plans had already been made on your shower date, that's unfortunate but should not cause them to judge you. I've been in similar situations so I sympathize, but remember that not everyone shows love the same way. Some people move mountains to make those big events, and some just...do not. But still love you all the same :-)

It's understandable to be disappointed, but I don't think it's realistic to expect people to travel a few hours for a shower.

Definitely okay to be disappointed, but I'm sure you'll have a great time!!

I am so sorry you're disappointed. My felt bad for H because he has great friends and I thought for sure they would want to plan him a bachelor party. Nope they did nothing for him. On the other hand my bridal party had both a bachelor party and a shower for me which I was really surprised by.

Im sorry. I hate that you feel disappointed. try to enjoy that day. its out of your hands and its really nothing you can do but enjoy the day with your FH did you think that they may be surprising you?

Totally fine to feel disappointed. Don't let it cloud your upcoming day! Stuff happens and people have to miss out. Doesn't mean this people don't love you.

I am sorry you feel that way! I don't have very many friends, especially exemplified when making the guest list and we made a bride and groom side. know that you have a best friend and family that loves you. and some times more friends are a hassle more than a blessing

It's fine to feel disappointed. However, no one will be as excited about your "Parties" or wedding day as much as you.

I would bet that your in-laws have enough life experience to realize that this is not uncommon and has no reflection on the type of person you are. And it sounds a little like they were hoping for a smaller intimate affair and they may even feel it's considerate of you. I hope you have a wonderful time and this is not something to stress over.

My sister was the same way for her wedding. she didn't really have any friends so really only our family came to her shower and ALL of her FH's family and friends. She did lean more on her husbands family for support and that helped her to bond more with her new family. So when the wedding finally came she didn't feel to bad about it because her new family was her friends. She wound up getting really close to his cousin and they are now best friends. Just some encouragement for you. this could be a chance to bond more with your soon to be family. His parents seem like totally awesome people for doing that for you. These are ya new peeps!