Feeling bummed

Same boat! Mines in 2 months and 1 week away and no one has really helped. I guess I was just immune to it and. Have been taking the reigns on everything in life usually. But the BMs and MOH really don’t know how to help as they’ve never done this before. My mom has helped w some stuff but not much. At this point it’s almost too late. I’ve got most of the stuff done except flowers and odds and ends.

I have such mixed feelings on this! I remember a friend who was so focused on her own wedding, she never asked about what was going on with me (I was a bridesmaid and my dad died that year, so it was a little rough having her bounce father-daughter dance ideas off me). I remember thinking, to you, it’s the most important day in the history of the world, and it should be, but to everyone else it’s a fun party with an open bar. Now that I’m the one getting married, I find there are some people who surprise me with their lack of interest and others who overwhelm me with too much. As others have mentioned, everyone on here obviously loves to talk about every step of the process. Lean on the friends who do take an interest and don’t sweat the ones who don’t. Just remember, they may have things going on that are emotionally much bigger than your wedding is to them. It doesn’t mean they don’t care, they just have other things in the way.

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I am in the same boat with an out of state wedding and many immediate family members unable to make it. Not sure what to do. Fortunately, this is for the kids.... and they keep me motivated. I thought about getting the bride box too. It's sad. I doubt I'll have any parties at all.

View Quoted Comment Hey beautiful bride-to-be! I don’t have many girlfriends, me and my boyfriend only just recently got engaged, we were thinking of a very small 25 person ceremony possibly followed by a slightly larger reception. Then EVERYONE put their 2 cents in about how people would be left out blah, blah freaking blah lol SO me and my fiancé talked about it and agreed to elope :-) so it’s just us, 2 witnesses and maybe 2 more people. I completely understand where you’re coming from, like I don’t even know who I’ll have as my witness/MOH bc my “best friend” was incredibly underwhelmed when I told her the news. Anywho, in my opinion, it’s your day, enjoy everything you can, if they’re not interested could they possibly be jealous?? And finally F everyone except you and your future husband! Congratulations and good luck!!!!

I get this. I’m four and a half months out and almost no one ever asks about the wedding. MOH brought up my tiny, mellow bachelorette party a couple weeks ago. But none of our parents ever ask, my other friends never ask. It’s a bummer.

I’m sorry you’re going through that. I hope you can focus on you and your future spouse and try to ignore other people’s “junk” at this moment. Good luck!

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I am feeling this too! My BM's are all very different people and from different "friend groups"/stages of life...they are also in different locations, so I feel that I probably won't have any kind of party or showers leading up to the wedding. 2 of my friends got married like, 4 years ago, right out of college, so that was the fun, exciting time for everyone to do those things and most people are kind of over it by now.