Feeling bummed

Well, as they say, nobody will be as excited about your wedding as you are. I think that's a really tough thing to deal with. But that's also what makes this community so great.

I think a lot of brides go through this. I’m experiencing it myself and have had the bridal blues so to speak recently with my wedding in a couple months. Other advice I’ve been given is enjoy everything you can and don’t let other people get you down, we’re going to be the most excited for the wedding and it’s our big day anyway.

I ’m taking everyone else’s lackluster attitudes with stride and doing as much for myself as possible - spa days, focusing on my health, doing fun wedding projects, checking things off my checklist and to avoid disappointment planning the week of parties including our combo Bach party.

View Quoted Comment You are so right! It’s nice to read other people’s experiences also.

I get the feeling but yes no one is as excited about your wedding as you, I do talk to fiancé a lot about it.

View Quoted Comment You’re right. I’m trying to focus on things I can control and enjoy the planning. My FH’s groomsmen have already planned his party and I’m pretty sure if I don’t plan something for myself it won’t happen. I’ve been trying to think of something they’ll actually want to come to but my BM’s are all very different.

View Quoted Comment Surprisingly my fiancé is excited to talk about the wedding but zero help with a few things I’ve needed second opinions on such as my jewelry and shoes lol.

I completely understand! We’re getting married out of state compared to where most of our friends and family are located and my family has already told me (2 years out) that they aren’t going to make it. We haven’t had an engagement party and I don’t think I should expect one. I bought my own bride box subscription to try to bring up my spirits but I think it just makes me sad. I’m trying to get excited but feel like everyone else is bringing me down.


I know mental health is important but how do you get excited when no one else is or they don’t even make you feel like a bride?

In my experience, anyone can get sick of the same conversation, or topic of it is all that is talked about. I get it, you are getting married (me too!) but maybe be conscious of how often you are bringing it up, and make sure to “put it away” when you are with your friends, unless there is something pertinent that NEEDS to be discussed. This may be consuming your every minute, but everyone else has other stuff going on too. They are probably excited, just not 24/7 thinking about your day.

Maybe be if you don’t have something pertinent, but are excited about something, say “I just have to say something” tell them what it is, then move on into a different non related conversation. Make them see you care about their lives and then maybe they will be more open to hearing about (example) those “cute handmade signs” you orders from an etsy shop.

Hope this helps. I’m sure I’ll have a practice what you preach moment when I get as close to my day as you are. Good luck! And congratulations!!

View Quoted Comment I’m so sorry! Maybe as the time goes by hopefully your family will change their minds. It’s so hard to try to stay positive about things. We are paying for our wedding so I want things to look nice and everyone to have fun but I worry if people will actually come and how long they will stay. I really hope things get better for you.

I feel you on this. It sucks because it’s nice to be able to share your thoughts and feelings with someone but I find nobody is interested too lol

View Quoted Comment I completely get that! I would say that’s the case but I rarely talk to anyone about it. I try to not bring it up when I do talk to them. I’m 33 and have 4 children so I totally get having other things going on. I just mean when I don’t talk to my bridal party for a week or more and we only talk about what they have going on it gets old.

View Quoted Comment I love my friends and I feel like I’m always there when they have something exciting going on and I just need advice on a few things it would be nice not to get brushed off for the conversation to go back around to what they have happening. Then it’s awkward lol

Wow see this is why I Iove this community on here ! I had no idea so many people were feeling like I feel! My family since the beginning has given me a hard time about my wedding proposal etc it’s all just been a lot of drama . My bridesmaids are really just there. Two of them kind of are more supportive but at the end of the day they have lives. In the end it’s just meTRYING to stay excited and get stuff done on my own . I have to even limit my discussion about it with FH lol he’s not into all the details like me and that’s understandable 😂 at least he tries . My wedding planner isn’t even really being as involved as she should be 🙄 . Yea I agree with one of the women’s quotes “no one is going to be as excited for you as you’re.”

Thank GOODNESS for Wedding Wire!!! It’s exactly what I needed when everything was going south and I believe if you really dedicate time on here cheering on the other brides it makes you feel MUCH better . You can really feel abs understand the joy of the other brides . In return they are here to genuinely cheer you on as well and that’s so beautiful!

So WE got this beautiful we ARE not going to let other people ruin our time bc we will NEVER get this moment back. I KNOW you’d look back and regret it if you let them steal your joy! So let’s get back to counting down to your wedding 😊😊😊☺️☺️🙌🏾🙌🏾

One more thing (lol ) I personally have lived my life for a long time pleasing others and once I grew out of that I was much happier . This situation has tempted me to go back into that habit of doing things for other people but I’ve learned I deserve to be just as happy as anyone els e. In my experience talk about your wedding when you want bc I promise when that bridesmaid gets married she’s going to do that and probably even more than you! Use this time you deserve it and you’re definitely close enough to where it makes since to be ! Ok I’m finished lol goodluck!!

View Quoted Comment Thank you! I am the same about trying to please others except unfortunately I haven’t learned to let that go yet. Working on it lol. You’ve really made me feel better and so encouraged. Thank you for some positive energy 😊. Also congratulations on your engagement!

View Quoted Comment That does suck. Hopefully things start to turn around.

I don't think anyone is ever as excited about your wedding as you are. Sometimes when talking about it to my friends I felt like I was maybe too excessive with it due to my excitement. But on the bright side people on WW will be excited with you

As long ad you snd FH are excited, that’s all that matters. Remember... you’ve spent all your engagement thinking “wedding wedding wedding”. So it’s always at the forefront of your mind. But your friends are living their day to day lives and aren’t sitting around thinking about your wedding. What attention do you want them to show you regarding your wedding that they aren’t??

View Quoted Comment We love giving opinions on stuff like jewelry and shoes, so whenever you need help just post some pics!

It's natural to feel what you are feeling. I have felt similarly.. the one person who wouldn't forget a big thing like this died six months ago. My other family members forgot FH and I are getting married this month. But at the same time, everyone has so much going on in their lives so I am choosing to let it go and enjoy the special day with my best friend! Try to focus your energy on your partner, planning your day and chatting here with us. Using this site IMO is actually more constructive and keeps a balance in offline relationships.. sometimes we overshare with our friends and family and don't realize it.