Feeling a little down.

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I didn't get a picture of either and I am totally fine with that! The way FH did it was perfect. It was the way he was comfortable proposing. Like others have said I'm just shocked that he wants to be with me forever lol. You will always have that memory of being in your favorite place being proposed to. After FH proposed we took a selfie and he was surprised, I didnt post it right then and there. We got engaged in November and didn't post it on social media until January! We were able to enjoy our engagement to the fullest and was able to get a lot of planning done including our guest list. Our grandparents dont have proposal pictures lol and they've been married for years. Sometimes I feel like social media really hinders us. There's always going to be something we wish we could change.

To me proposals should be personal and intimate, not shared by everyone, just between the two of you. Social media has made it so that every life event, big or small has to be photographed and posted for everyone to ooh and ahhh over. You've said his proposal was perfect so would pictures have made it any better? Enjoy it for what is. The man of your dreams took time and thought about how wanted you to tell you how special you are to him and wants to spend his life with you.

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My FH proposed spur of the moment in between bands at a concert. No ring, no paparazzi...just us completely in the moment and it was amazingly perfect. Proposal pictures always look so staged and fake. It's like everyone is always trying to "keep up with the Jones's" on social media. There is more to life than social media and pictures...they are just things. The memories you make on your adventure together are what last a lifetime.

Have you thought of doing a reenactment with your engagement session if it upsets you that much? We had a friend do that since they were unable to get pictures the day of and they wanted them.

We personally are very private people so even though my fiance videotaped our proposal we won't be sharing it with anyone. Just screenshot a picture from it ( can't tell it was right after) for our Christmas card - kind of a inside joke. Well... now all of you guys know haha.

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I agree with all of this. My proposal was so very us, no pics, no elaborate planning. I felt guilty for that for a long time, but we both agree it was perfect for us because we are perfect together. If you really want pictures, consider an engagement photo shoot. Just because your friends are posting glossy pics, doesn't make their proposals any more special than yours.

I didn't even get a proposal. We just started planning our next vacation and I said, 'We could just make this our honeymoon instead of a basic vacation.' And then he said, 'OK.' and then we went that weekend and bought a ring (we split it 50/50) and then we told our families we were getting married.

We've been going to premarital counseling and one of the things I learned right at the beginning was I was really disappointed that I didn't have a cute engagement story. (Never mind pictures!! I didn't even get asked! LOL.) People always want to know "How did he propose?" and my answer always seemed so hum-drum. "We just talked about it and then we bought a ring a few days later." Booorrrinnngggg.

Counseling really helped because then I realized that it doesn't matter how the proposal happened (or didn't happen). It matters that we both went along with it and have stuck to our decision and that it was mutual. We both wanted to get married so we're doing it! We both get to spend the rest of our lives together. It's a decision we made together and that makes it extra special to me. It's exciting and nerve-wracking and fun and terrifying and we're both thrilled. That's all that matters.

Now when people ask about our story, I love telling them, "We planned the honeymoon first!"

I completely understand. I loved the way my fiance proposed, he even had my best friend and family there to take pictures, but the pictures are HORRIBLE quality. It's cool that I have them, but I can't even share/enjoy them much they're THAT bad. Unfortunately, there's always something we could have done different.

If you want to feel any better, we were laying in bed, I was sad bc I just feel like my life has been blah and everyone else was living the life I always dreamed of marriage and babies and so forth. He asked if I was ok insaid yeah I'm just sad I'm not where I want to be in life yet. Now he has always asked me in passing if I'd be his wife and I say yes haha yeah it's cute, I know he not serious. So while I'm in bed with him super sad that I'm almost 30 and I'm the only one not married and not pregnant and not buying a home etc. He asked me I said yeah of coarse like always. He put his claddagh ring on me, I still didnt think anything of it, but I hugged him for trying to make me feel better. He really is a sweetheart and he knows when I'm feeling down. Then he says ok tomorrow we get you a proper ring....what? Dude cmon really. I know I should be grateful but a little more thought would have been nice. I get it. I wish I'd had a real proposal moment

It's ok to feel bad.
Maybe when/if you do a formal engagement photoshoot you can do a posed version. Not quite the same but at least you'll have a nice picture.
I wasn't supposed to have pictures of my proposal. My FH proposed at the coffee shop where we had our first date. He treated it like any other day so I was in sweats and no makeup. It just so happened a guy I knew was getting coffee and saw what was happening and took our picture. It's cute but boy do I wish I put on a different outfit lol

Take comfort in knowing every proposal story is special and unique! If it makes you feel any better, H and I got engaged while watching Madea Goes to Jail after the Super Bowl. Might not be the most romantic, but it's still very special to us