Feeling a little down.

Your feelings are valid, but the phrase "comparison is the thief of joy" is extremely true. Your proposal was perfect because it was your proposal, it's not any less than because it wasn't like the ones you see on Facebook or Pinterest. Let yourself feel these things, but then work through them and bask in the newly engaged happiness.

It's okay to feel a little bummed about not having pictures, but at the end of the day, remember that proposal pictures are really only something that have become a thing since the rise of social media. Most often, these aren't for us, but are for our followers. The fact that you've got such a beautiful memory is what is important. I really do understand as my proposal was "ruined" by a close family member (she blurted it out while not realizing I was in the room), but what I kept focusing on was the fact that we were engaged and that the wedding would be beautiful. Allow yourself to feel a twinge of sadness, but then move on and focus on the beauty that you'll get from your wedding day!

To be completely honest I feel the same way. My FH has a grand idea planned out which was so cute, then the second he got the ring he instantly proposed with a last minute idea because he just couldn’t wait for the original idea. Obviously that’s so cute that he was so excited to do it but I wished he had been patient and done his original idea

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My FH wanted my family to be there and be apart of the proposal originally which I thought would be amazing because I am really close with my family. Then he surprised me and proposed in Vegas and like I said it was so special and thoughtful and perfect I just can't help but feel a bit down he didn't stick to the original plan with my family and pictures involved. oh well I guess C'est la vie

I agree with the first poster. Comparison is the thief of Joy. If I really think about how our wedding day is going to be and if I were to compare that to my other friends weddings I could easily feel resentful. At the end of the day the fact of the matter is that somebody wants to marry you. Even if I focus on how I'm not truly having the wedding of my dreams I'm blessed that someone is willing to marry me because I know people who have never been married and may never get married. The most important thing is that he proposed to you even if it's not how you would have loved it to be. My proposal stories not exactly lovely and over-the-top romantic but it's something that we shared and it's beautiful for us. Mostly I'm just happy about the fact that I'm going to be getting married because I could be single forever.

I was a little bummed for a bit over the ring. I waited for over 10 years for a proposal and he pulls out a designer, expensive, ridiculously beautiful ring. My head said "Did he think I needed this ring?!? Did I wait all this time because he was saving up for a dumb ring?" Does he even know me?" Hahaha. So silly! But since I would have been happy with a piece of rope, it made me feel like somehow wanting a proposal gave him the impression that I wanted a nice ring. I talked to a relative who gave me so much perspective and completely changed my mind. That would be my advice to you! Talk to someone close to you who knows you both that can give you great insight! These boards can help, but since we dont know him it can hinder good advice. I hope you can get some understanding as to why he wanted the proposal that way and any regrets leave you!!
P.s. you should get an artist to do a drawing of you 2 in front of Bellagio. I've seen a lot of them around this time of year for Holiday cards. They're really cute! That could be a really fun keepsake that I'm sure would make you smile everytime you see it.

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Thank you for your insight! I absolutely adore that idea!

View Quoted Comment Also....not sure if it's too late for this advice. But try not to say anything to your fiance! I told mine that I was shocked by the ring and it really hurt his feelings. They just dont get our brains and how we over think ;-) Good Luck to you!

I have no photos from our proposal, it was on top of Mt Saint Helens, just after we had released some of my father's ashes. Part of me wishes we had, but then part of me is ok that there isn't. It was a beautiful moment between us. As PPs said, comparison is the thief of joy. You got to have a proposal in your favorite place in Vegas. Write your own story now, and don't let others dictate it.

I am a little sad we didn't get photos of him and me holding my hand up to show the ring like my sister and her fiance did. But, at the same time I am cherishing that moment because no one was there except us. Also, we didn't announce it to the world like my sister did on fb or instagram. I like that we are the only ones who had the day to ourselves.

I understand being disappointed. My proposal was nothing like what I wanted. My husband proposed two days after his brother and in front of both of our families. I didn't want to get engaged around the same time as people we knew which is why I didn't want to get engaged for a holiday. I also just wanted it to be the two of us. My husband didn't know his brother was proposing until a few weeks beforehand and they both already had the plans in motion. However, my husband knew I didn't want to get engaged that close to his brother because we had that conversation 5 days prior to us getting engaged. During that conversation, I also mentioned that I didn't what a bunch of people there. I would have been fine with like 1 or 2 people, but there were 9 people plus my husband and I. Of course I said yes, but it definitely wasn't my dream proposal. Even with all those people there, we didn't get very many photos because they were standing on a bride about 100+ feet from us so the photos they did get are very far away.

I don’t think proposal photos are that special tbh. Plus I think they take away from the intimacy. I didn’t even have a special proposal trip I got my ring in the living room, so you still had more than me lol. I’m just thrilled to be married. The closer it gets to the wedding people stop asking about the engagement. Besides tons of people have awesome engagements and then break up. So I would focus on what’s really important which is your relationship with your fiancé who obviously loves you very much!

I completely understand how you feel because there were some parts to my proposal that I wish were different. I wanted to celebrate with friends and family afterwards but he literally planned a whole trip to propose...like we flew to Nashville and spent 4th of July there and he proposed during their big fireworks show. And the pics were taken by a lady standing by us and it was soooo crowded. Pics weren’t great (I’ll post the best one for reference). I’m over it at this point...im getting to marry the most amazing man ever and I’m planning the wedding of my dreams. And I’m very eager to start a family!
The guys face in the background makes me laugh every time 😂

I didn't have pictures of my engagement, which happened in our pajamas sitting on the couch on a lazy Sunday so I had an artist on Etsy re-create it in cartoon-style. (Bob's Burgers cartoon style to be exact, one of our favorite shows). I posted it to insta and also had it blown up and printed on a canvas and now it hangs in our house. It's so cute. Maybe an option for you to "remember" the moment as well!

My fiance proposed when it was just he and I. I like that its something just between us. We took pictures of my hand after the moment passed in order to share it on Facebook. It was intimate, special and memorable.

My FH’s proposal was perfect, we were at a waterfall and we were the only ones there. It was a very intimate and private moment that I’m glad I didn’t have to share with anyone else, the idea of having pictures of the moment would be nice and the pictures are special for those that have them but I think having the intimacy of the moment to ourselves is even more special.. I then of course took a zillion pictures of my ring with the waterfall and we took a picture “selfie” together afterward so I’ll have those to remember

the moment as well, but I wouldn’t have wanted it any other way.

My fiance and I went to Disney World a month before he proposed. He got the photo package and everything. On the last day, he said "I thought about proposing on this trip, but I decided against it." And I had to spend my last day at Disney World trying not to cry... and spent the next almost 3 weeks being beyond mad at him.


I think he proposed out of fear.
He proposed quietly in his apartment and put the ring in a Disney Cruise book. And we immediately had to tell our families.
Which I kinda dreamed about it happening at Disney and keeping it our secret for the week.
So I get it.

I didn’t have any pictures either, which I was also kind of sad about, but the more I think about it I’m really glad no one else was there because it let us be in the moment with one another

I understand this 100%. I had the same issue, I loved the proposal, but I wish I had pictures or video or someone who witnessed. But ultimately it's ok because we got engaged, right?

I'm sorry youre feeling bad..


Try to focus on the good. You were proposed to somewhere that means something to you..you said it was perfect..so let it be perfect.

I don't understand the need to photograph all of the things so that they can be shared with everyone. Social media has really caused so many issues..one being that it causes a lot of people to feel that if the moment isn't captured for others to ooh and Ahh over then it doesn't matter.