Fatherless on my wedding day

I wore a locket with my dad's picture in it, so he could "walk me down the aisle." My brother escorted me down the aisle and when the priest asked "who presents this woman to be married" his response was "on behalf of those who are here, and those who cannot be, I do." I also danced with my brother to the song from which my dad got his nickname for me.

My wife's mother passed away several years ago. We had a memorial table with her picture on it. One of her sisters made these soft mints their mom used to make all the time and it meant so much to all of them when they were added to our dessert table. We chose not to have specific parent dances since only my parents could be there but my dad did grab me for a dance which was a sweet moment but didn't put all the spotlight on us. I have seen several brides carry a small picture of their lost loved one on their bouquet and I honestly think it is the sweetest idea.

Both of our parents have passed away. We didn't do the dances either. What we did was have their names read during the ceremony and had a collage frame with the pictures of the ones we've lost. It was a hit with everyone, especially my new nephews when I included a photo of their mom, my husbands sister, who died last year.

I'm so sorry for your loss--2 years is not that much time, and I'm sure this still hurts a lot. I'm in the same boat, except my father passed away 17 years ago, so I've had time to get ready for this moment. Though I'm not sure you can ever be fully ready.

My father was a guitarist, and I have his favorite guitar. I found a musician who agreed to play it for the ceremony, so that's my biggest way of honoring him. I'm also printing programs with "in loving memory" on the back.

My mother is walking me down the aisle, because she was the one who raised me after my father passed. It's her honor/privilege to do this. My uncle, who became my paternal figure after the accident, will be doing a dance with me.

I say you do whatever makes you most comfortable. Maybe think of the things he really loved--is there a way to include that in the day? As for dances, there is absolutely no pressure to do that.

My daddy passed 14 yrs ago. I cried today in the car alone on the way to my lunch break. I pulled up to the window wiping tears. I'm hurt. I am having a moment of silence and we'll bow our heads this will be stated by the pastor before he starts and my bouquet is going to be a large decorated photo of him I'm carrying just like a bouquet. His family is gonna lose it. I can't wait.

Thank you everyone who commented on my post i like all these ideas i appreciate your time and im sorry to hear everyone's losses it is not easy .Physically they might not be with us on our special day but spiritually i am sure they will