Father of the Groom

I don't think there is normal for the father of the groom. I have almost always seen them wearing tuxes at the wedding i've been too. He sounds stubborn. It's one day out of his life. I hope he realizes that and does it for his son

Hi Veronica! Agreeing with Laura, I don't think there is one thing that they must wear. However, most weddings I've seen the father of the groom/bride is normally wearing a suit with a jacket! Maybe you all can meet in the middle and he can wear khaki's with a dress shirt!

We are having both fathers wear rented tuxes. Originally FOG wanted to just wear a suit of his own I guess? But when we said everyone else was renting he agreed to do that as well (for the record we didn't force him lol).

He should be wearing a suit at least, or some sort of dress clothes, to match the formality of the event and everyone else! He will stick out like a sore thumb if he is dressed casually and everyone else is dressed formally or semi-formally. It's just for one day...but I guess in the end it is his choice...whatever ends up happening, don't stress it. If he chooses to wear casual everyday clothes, he will make only himself look foolish.

From what my fiance has said without talking to his father is that his father did not even wear a suit for his own wedding. He has already said his father wouldn't want to wear a suit or tux. Unfortunately, his father isn't the type of person to be easily concerned to do something. His father is very stubborn. He will not wear something he doesn't want to even if it is for his son. My fiance has also said his father doesn't even like polos. I asked if he was going to wear dress khakis and a polo and my fiance's response is my dad doesn't like polos. So am I clueless as to what his father is willing to wear aside from jeans and a t-shirt.

FOG will be wearing a suit. He is not well off financially, so FH covered the cost, but he has never worn a suit before, so we were really shocked about this!

Could it be a cost issue with FFIL? Maybe a comfort issue? We told my dad (FOB) that he can change into jeans and a nice shirt after the Father Daughter dance (Reception is in the hotel that we are staying, so this is practical for us). We want our guests to be comfortable!

Cost isn't an issue. He just doesn't like dressing up. He works in a bowling alley as a technician so he isn't used to dressing up nor does he like to.

Is there a reason why he is so ageanst it? My FMIL has a lot of health issues. So she does not dress up much. Not sure what she is wearing to the wedding still 10 moths away.

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The only reason I have been given by my fiance is that his dad doesn't like to dress up. His father more comfortable in jeans and a t-shirt.

The reason of not liking to dress up is ridiculous. He is a grown adult and can wear a nice suit for one day or even just through pictures then change if he wants. I’m not a huge fan of dressing up either, but I also don’t like sticking out like a sore thumb at a wedding and dress for the occasion/ formality of the event.

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I said the same thing to my fiance. I said he would look really weird and stick out in our photos, but he said his father wouldn't care. If he's not willing to wear a suit or tux, he could at least wear dress pants and a polo.

Yeah

i went with this is the theme and wear whatever but understand if it’s pajamas there will be pictures without you

apologizing now

hoping for best lol

What would you recommend we suggest as an alternative to a tux or suit? He will already be undressed if he doesn't wear a tux.

He wears whatever he wants. If he was a considerate person, he would ask for your opinion, but is under no obligation to do so. If he looks terrible in pictures, that's on him and no reflection of you.

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I'm more comfortable in yoga pants, no bra, and a t-shirt, but that's not what I am wearing to my wedding. ROFL This is not your battle to fight, however. Let your FH handle it with him.

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I am definitely letting my fiance handle it because his father and I do not get along. I was just trying to find out if there was something else we could suggest to him.

If everyone is wearing a tuxedo, and your wedding is formal FOG SHOULD wear a tuxedo. It's just an etiquette thing - you SHOULD wear what the formality of the event dictates... It will look weird in family photos if not, but you're right, you can't force him to wear a tuxedo. All you can do is ask him to and if he doesn't, it sucks.

I came to this realization after my mother wanted to wear white, and his mother wanted to wear pants and not get her hair or makeup done for our formal wedding. The only person they are embarrassing is themselves. You'll be a lot happier if you just succumb to that. I wish I had better advice... (and I know I say that easily and it sounds harsh, but trust me, it stressed me out for a bit and then I just decided whatever)

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OMG YES. LOVE this response!

View Quoted Comment Sounds like he's not the type to take any suggestions. Frustrating, for sure.

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He definitely is not. My fiance tried saying it would be weird to see him in a tux since he didn't even wear a suit for his own wedding. But he's been married twice and is now engaged once again so I don't really think we should be basing anything off of what his father did for his own weddings.

I know my own dad doesn't really want to wear a tux, but he understands that it is a formal wedding and that other guys are really tuxes so he is willing to wear a tux. Does the father of the bride have to wear a vest with the tux?