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Father of the Bride Drama

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Kaitlin, on February 28, 2016 at 7:45 AM

Hello! I think I posted on this a while back, but it's gotten worse & I need help. My parents are divorced. My dad hates my fiancé & doesn't want us to get married. He says he wants no involvement in the wedding other than "doing his duties of dancing with me & giving me away," but when I asked him for his help picking our father-daughter dance song recently, he said "It doesn't matter. It's a song. You choose." I gave him a song list anyway. He said no to them, along with not giving any other suggestions. I asked my aunt (his sister) for help & she defended his behavior. Honestly, after the emotional abuse he's given me my whole life, never spending Father's Day with me because "it means nothing to him" & his rudeness to my fiancé's parents when they met, I don't know if I want him to give me away or dance with me. I don't know if I should invite him at all. I'm trying to be the bigger person, but I don't want him to ruin the wedding day for everyone else because he has issues. Help?

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A&L · on February 28, 2016 at 6:08 PM
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Don't invite him!
I'm spending too much money and energy for a grown man to throw a tantrum in front of my guest and take my joy.
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MrsA · on February 28, 2016 at 6:18 PM
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If he doesn't care, what's the point? Stop hurting yourself.
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Just Said Yes April 2016
Katie · on February 28, 2016 at 6:20 PM
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I have honestly tried my whole life to have my dad apart of my life and when it came to the wedding it was the same deal. No involvement and no support i have chosen to keep him away from the wedding its my day and im going to enjoy it not worry about him and his feelings.
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Dedicated April 2017
Kaitlin · on February 29, 2016 at 5:34 AM
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Elphaba - The only people who know the situation are my mom, my uncle, my fiancé, my future in-laws, and the wedding party. My dad's family isn't fully aware of what he does because when he's cruel, he makes sure that no one sees it. That's why his sister defends his actions no matter what. I don't know what the plan will be until I have a long talk with him. He will be told that if he does attend, he will be respectful. One wrong move, and he will be escorted out by the groomsmen, no questions asked. Those guys don't take crap from anyone.
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Bethyonce · on March 1, 2016 at 11:26 AM
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If your dad does these things when no one can see it, what makes you think that the conversation where you put the ball in his court would go your way? Honestly, tell him that due to his recent behavior, it is in everyone's best interest that he attend as a guest. He will not need to worry about his "duties" because there are those that consider it an honor. If he changes his mind and decides that he would like to have a more active role in the wedding, he is welcome to let you know within the next year.

Don't give him any authority over your wedding or life. This will only hurt you.
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