Father of the Bride attire advise

I think each situation is different. In our case, my future husband and his groomsmen will be wearing tuxes. We are not requesting that our fathers wear a tux but I do believe each of them will. We'll let them do what ever they are comfortable in. I even think everyone is wearing black and future husbands dad wants to wear gray, it's fine with me.

Hhhmmmm. Is the groom wearing a suit now because you want to wear a tux? If wearing a tux for him was his request to be "different" you may need to oblige and wear a suit. I suggest just asking them. I understand a tux is your dream but maybe your daughter and FH envision something different. Good luck.

I wanted my Dad in a traditional tux like my FH and my Dad always pictures wearing a tux. They actually got the same exact one. I think the FOB should be in a tux. You are the most important person in the wedding besides the bride and groom. In my opinion.

Is your daughters FH wearing a regular tie? If so maybe you wear a bow tie to mix it up. What color suits are the groomsmen wearing?

My father threatened to wear the full on golfer attire. High socks and sandles included. I will ask for a tux! Hahaha

Ask your daughter what she would like. Although I'm sure a tux will be just fine

I don't see why the two of you both can't wear a tux, they have so many variations now that you both can wear one and not look like you are wearing the same tux. I would ask both your daughter what she wants and ask your SIL why he would wear a suit if you decide to wear a tux.

My dad wore a suit to walk me down the aisle (groom and groomsmen also in suits). At my sister's wedding, which was a bit more formal than ours, both my dad and the groom's dad wore morning dress (groom and groomsmen in suits again). I'd say have a chat with your daughter and see what she would prefer.

@OP I am more concerned that the groom seems only to be changing his mind since you also expressed interest in wearing a tux. Is there any tension between the two of you? If, as other posters have said he wanted to look completely different I can respect that, but regardless, you as father of the bride are entitled to wear a tux if you want to.

There are countless posts on here of brides upset at what the MOG will be wearing. The general consensus for those are that she can wear whatever she likes and the bride cannot complain. I say the same goes for the FOB.

It sounds like the groom wants to be the only one wearing a tux to be different, so I think you should respect that and wear a suit.

My FH and his groomsmen, and both of our fathers are all wearing tuxes.

That being said, a lot of modern tuxedos look very very similar to suits. It does sound like the groom wants to stand out. My FH is wearing a black tux, everyone else is wearing charcoal. Our fathers' vests and ties will be matching our mother's dresses. See what your daughter prefers and go from there.

The only "rule" I've ever heard is that no one should be dressed more formally than the groom. So, because my FH purchased an awesome navy suit for our wedding, my own father will not be wearing his tuxedo.

My father is wearing a tux. But so is my FH and his groomsmen. I think it would be totally fine for you to wear a tux. Is the groom against you wearing one? You and him could wear different tuxes with different color ties and all that. If he's worried about you being too dressed exactly alike. Maybe talk to your daughter and him together about what the issue is. I find it really odd that the groom is changing his choice to a suit now just because you want to wear a tux.

You want to know what they want and respect their wishes for their wedding. However you are an adult and they should respect your wishes on what you want to wear. Hopefully you guys can come to a compromise.

If you were my dad I would want you in a tux! My dad will be in one I can't wait to see him all snazzy like that. (He's a carpenter so he rarely ever dresses up). I can't wait.

We are picking out 4 outfits .. groom, groomsmen , dad's, and ring bearer and ushers (they will wear the same thing )

There are a lot of variations of tuxes. You could pick one less formal than the grooms

I also agree that you are more important than the groomsmen!

I'm kinda mad at this groom I don't even know right now! Lol if my fiancé did this I would be like what the hell! I would not allow that. I'm just imagining someone telling my dad he couldn't wear a tux and it's pissing me off.

Talk to your daughter. Then talk to them both together. Ultimately adults get to decide what they want to wear. If my dad had wanted to wear a suit he could have. I told him I would like to have him in a tux and he agreed. You can wear what you want. Just talk to them and see what the issue is.

We had our GM wear matching tuxes with DH in charcoal gray and then asked the dads if any if them also wanted to wear tuxes. My dad did, his dad and stepdad didn't. We decided that we didn't want my dad to necessarily look just like one of the GM, but we also didn't want him to look identical to DH, so we told him he was free to pick a black tux if he didn't like the gray and either a black or gray vest and tie (GM were going to be wearing gray vests). DH was definitely going to be wearing an ivory bowtie and an ivory vest (we later changed it to a gray vest and white bowtie).

My dad went rogue. He did choose a black tux (good), but he decided he wanted to do a "silver" vest and bowtie. I later saw this "silver" stuff in person. It was white. He made up the fact that it was called silver to make us think it wasn't white so we'd go along with it. He basically made himself look like the groom. It didn't help that DH was going to be the only other person wearing a bowtie and bowties are DH's thing.

In the end, we had to get a manager at Men's Wearhouse give my dad style tips to get him into a black vest with a paisley black bowtie (all the other guys were going to have paisley in their ties) so that my dad coordinated, yet stood out, yet wouldn't be mistaken for the groom.

Short version: it sounds like it's important to your FSIL that he stand out on his wedding day as the groom, which is completely understandable. Perhaps try asking? if he would mind if you wore a tux of a different color that wouldn't make you look like part of the wedding party, but would still make you look dressy enough to walk your daughter down the aisle. No one mistook my dad for the groom or a GM in his black tux, vest, and bowtie. But, this all needs to be okay with the groom. Again, it sounds like attire is something that is important to him.

Hi Brian! To me it sounds like the groom was planning on wearing a tux to be special - to differentiate the groom from the rest of the groomsmen, to be more formal, and to stand out in pictures. It sounds like this isn't about who can wear a tux, but that it was his plan to have that attire set him apart.

Are you open to wearing anything else? I think you guys can all come to a happy solution! You could wear different ties, or different colored tuxes (check out grey and navy tuxes!), or go for a 3 piece suit instead!

Unless Mother of the Bride is wearing a gown, wear a suit.

My and his dad are in tuxes, their ties and pocket squares will be navy. GM are in the same tux, they will have a regular tie and pocket square in coral. The groom in a tux with a bow tie and pocket square in coral. They are all in the same navy tux. I'm not sure how it'll look completely but everyone's roles will be "clear" this way, which was FH request. Maybe you could suggest something like that to your daughter.

Since the GM's are wearing suits, I think you should too. I understand where you are coming from with the tux, but things are different now days and we have to honor the look and feel of the wedding. Besides, you can always use a suit again and have you seen the price to rent a tux?!

My DH wore a suit to give away our oldest daughter, and will be thrilled if he can do the same for the next two. The important part is being there to give your daughter away, not what you are wearing.