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Mia and Brandon
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Father in law sexual harassment

Mia and Brandon, on September 18, 2021 at 10:41 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 26
My soon to be father in law has been creepy at me for a while now talking about me being "barely legal" because I look and sound quite young and am only 5 foot 2 I get mistaken for 12-14 most of the time and sexaulizing my accent and anything he finds "really Asian" about me referring to me as babe but he took it way too far this time he used my fiancés phone to send himself explicit photos of me and not only used it for his "personal collection" he sent some to his friends i found this all out within thirty minutes because my boyfriends mother went threw his fathers phone and found all of this i have no clue what to do or even feel right now and my fiance wants me to act like nothing happened and still have him at the wedding I have no clue what to do does anyone have advice

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Latest activity by Mia and Brandon, on September 21, 2021 at 1:37 AM
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    I would maybe report to the police? Because if he is doing that to you, he would probably be doing with other people also?! Would be a matter of maybe protecting yourself for future incidents that may happen?! I understand it’s your fiancé’s father, but that’s very creepy.. and your fiancé should be by your side in this situation if you feel like it’s appropriate to do it.. we never know what can happen 🤷🏻‍♀️😢 sorry about this situation!
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  • Mia and Brandon
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    Iv thought about reporting it and very tempted to because its not only sexaul harassment to me its pedophilic behavior because he's really into the "barely legal " thing obsessively and me and my fiance have been fighting because I never want his father near me
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  • Melissa
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    Report it to the police.
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  • Mia and Brandon
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    Im thinking about it but I would need evidence
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  • Melissa
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    I think his phone is all the evidence needed. I would contact the police and let them know he took your fiancée's phone and shared personal images to not only his own phone but to others
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  • Mia and Brandon
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    My fiances mom smashed his father's phone when she found out
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  • Melissa
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    Wouldn't it show on your FH's phone that the photos were sent? Wouldn't his friends have them, or be able to say he had sent them?
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  • Melissa
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    And if he saved the photos to his cloud, they are still there. Also, police can pull his phone records
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  • Mia and Brandon
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    You can delete messages on one side after they've been received and ill try and get his friends to to say that he sent the pictures to them
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    Ill see about that thank you
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    Don't marry a man who wants you to act like nothing happened. The FFiL engaged in criminal and predatory behavior. Not trying to scare you, but the father's behavior will probably escalate. He has no decency or moral compass, and doesn't bother to hide it.


    Leave this fiance. He wants to bury his head in the sand even after your privacy was violated after his father went out of his way to violate your FH's privacy as well. Your FH has no intention to set boundaries. Will you ever feel or be safe? The only acceptable response by your FH is to cut of FFiL completely and never let him be around you. FFiL does not care about privacy or consent and sexualizes you to your face. It's very rapey. He probably is a pedophile. He probably has friends who are also pedophiles, that's why he shared your photo as a trophy. His mentality is that of a rapist. He enjoys exerting power and control over you (and your FH) and sees you as a piece of meat that is fair game to be shared. And yet, your FH wants to act like nothing happened. This is not acceptable. This is a red flag.
    What are you going to do if you ever have children? Do you want them to have a grandpa like this? Is your children's father going to to do nothing if grandpa starts making sexualized comments about his half Asian, underage grandchildren, or even worse?
    Talk to the police and see what they can do for you. They may be able to track stuff without the physical phone.
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  • Mia and Brandon
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    Me and my fiance had a talk his father will not have contact with me or our future children im Going to try and make a police report against him and hopefully a restraining order because I can easily imagine it getting physical sense hes mentioned that because of my size I would be easily overpowered by him my fiance wanted contact to continue because he was afraid he wouldn't be able to see his little brother and baby brother if I dint want contact with the father but I explained I would have no problem being in contact with his mother after we get to a good place we plan to try and get custody of my boyfriends brothers so his father doesn't try to sexaully abuse them
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  • Yasmine
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    I'm sorry that happened to you, he definitely would not be attending the wedding because that is a serious matter. & your fiancé should be on your side 100%
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    Go to the police. Sexual images are being shared without your consent. Go to the police and move out ASAP (if you live together). This guy is terrible.


    Keep in mind, he thinks you look like a kid so is essentially using this as child pornography which tells you about his preferences. Get out now. Get this man arrested before he harms an child.
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    Everything is on the cloud. Doesn’t matter what you delete on your physical phone it can still be found.
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  • Mrs.a
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    THIS!!! I am so SORRY and really feel for you! My ex husband did something very similar, and mind you he is my ex for this reason. There’s a reason they want you to be silent about it, and you should not be silenced. You should also not tolerate your FH’s behavior and attitude towards this…that sends a HUGE Red Flag, and I would seriously consider counseling for you and FH if you are to consider him as a FH at this point in your relationship. You seriously need to safely distance yourself not only from this man, but from what it sounds like, the family. This is sick.

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  • Mia and Brandon
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    He is on my side now we had a discussion
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    Im trying to get all the evidence i can because the cops said they cant do anything
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    Thank you for telling me
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    My fiance was on bored with me getting the police involved to begin with he wanted me to act to his father like nothing happened to his father because he wants to be able to see his bothers still but we had a discussion about im okay with being in contact with his mother not his father
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