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Father as the best man?

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Rebecca, on September 1, 2017 at 11:47 PM

So my FH is under the impression that there is some tradition that the father of the groom is always the best man. Said he's never been to a wedding where he hasn't seen it happen (for the record he hasn't been to THAT many weddings maybe like 3). He is not super close to his dad, he might talk to him a few times a month. Not that his dad doesn't try to call him every day, FH just never answers or hands the phone to me. That being said, I really don't think his dad should be his best man. They aren't really close and I think it will look weird to have a 55 year old man with a bunch of 25 year old guys, but FH thinks his dad is expecting it because he thinks it's some sort of tradition in the south.. thoughts?

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Emily · on September 2, 2017 at 9:27 AM
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It's usually a close friend. That's what my brother did. My FH is having his brother be his best man. It's up to him who he wants as his best man. If they aren't that close it doesn't really make sense. But again it's up to him.
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MrsB · on September 2, 2017 at 10:58 AM
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My dad was my brother's best man, and H's son was his. Both my dad/brother and H/his son are very, very close, so it made sense.

No matter who he chooses, it's his decision.
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Smidge · on September 2, 2017 at 11:22 AM
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My FH is having his dad as his best man. His reasoning was that his dad has been there through a lot whereas his friends/groomsmen he didn't feel as if anyone of them fit the role of best man since he doesn't have a best friend so to speak.
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Celia Milton · on September 2, 2017 at 11:34 AM
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I have had a number of fathers as BM, but it really depends on their relationship. If he doesn't even want to talk to him on the phone, BM seems like a weird choice.
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KarenO · on September 2, 2017 at 11:48 AM
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FH thought about asking his dad to be in his wedding party, but decided to stick with friends instead. I had never heard of it before then, but didn't think it was strange.
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Charis · on September 2, 2017 at 12:14 PM
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I've never seen that and I've been to lots of weddings.
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AdventuresofRuth · on September 2, 2017 at 12:18 PM
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I have seen this happen at a few weddings and seen it not happen at more weddings. I agree with PP, best man should be best and closest friend. If dad is best friend, then that makes sense.
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Nancy Taussig · on September 2, 2017 at 2:11 PM
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A couple of things to point out to your FH:
Best Man usually plans and attends bachelor party. Would Dad put a damper on the fun, make the other groomsmen uncomfortable?
Best Man escorts MOH. Who will escort MOG? How will she feel if it is not her husband?
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Alyssa · on September 2, 2017 at 2:42 PM
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Common practice in our area of the south. Brother and FH have dads as their best man. My dad escorted my mom then went to enter with the groom while MOB was escorted in. Same for my wedding.
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Nicole · on September 2, 2017 at 4:23 PM
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Never heard of that before. Does your FH actually want his dad to be the best man?
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