Father as the best man?

That is super bizarre and I have never seen or heard of that. The best man should be his closest friend. If his dad is his best friend, cool. But if not...

That said, if he wants to pick his dad he can, even if you wouldn't if you were in his shoes.

I've probably only seen that happen once and it was the mother being the bride's MOH. It is completely up to your FH. What does he want? If he doesn't do it, he needs to sit down with his dad and discuss why. He may have hurt feelings, but maybe try to incorporate him more in other ways.

This is the first I've heard of having the father be the best man, and I have many southern relatives so I don't think it's a southern thing. Your FH should be able to pick who he wants.

I've been to a lot of weddings and have only seen 1 where a father was in the wedding party. There's nothing wrong with somebody wanting their parent in the wedding party by any means if they are close to them, however it's certainly NOT the norm from my experience.

My sister's husband asked his father to be the best man because they are very close. In the numerous weddings that I have been to, that is the only time I saw this. I thought it was sweet at the time, but I think it would be strange if they were not close. I don't think your FH should ask his groomsmen based on peoples' expectations, even if one of those people is his father. Your wedding party are supposed to be your nearest and dearest - the people you want to be with you getting ready and standing in support next to you on your wedding day. If your FH's dad fits into that role, then he should ask him; if not, then he should discuss his decision with his father.

I've never seen or heard of that and I'm in the deep south

I've seen it happen a couple of times but both were situations where the groom and his Dad were really close. Despite any possible tradition he thinks exists, it doesn't make sense with the kind of relationship you describe.

Wow! This must be a southern thing because every wedding I've been to (where the father is living or in the groom's life) the father has been the best man. My dad was for my brother & FFIL will be FH's.

It's not mandatory by any means but in the south it is a tradition. I think it is very sweet & doesn't look odd in pictures. Good luck!

I've never seen it done, but it's his choice if he wants it. Don't try to interefer with his GM/BM picks.

My grandpa was my dad's best man and I've seen it a couple other times but I don't think it's the norm or a tradition. Normally when I've seen it, it's because the groom is pretty close to his dad

Edit: I honestly don't even think it's a southern thing because I've only been to 1 wedding that wasn't in the SE and never saw it in person. I've just had a handful of Facebook friends that I've seen do it. And my dad is from NY and did it..

I also don't think it looks weird though, I actually think it's kind of sweet

I have only seen it when the groom is super close with his dad.

It's common here in NC. I know bride who thought it was weird and didn't want the groom to do it and let's just say it caused major hurt that lasted a long time. Let your FH decide it's not really your call.

I've never heard of this, but think it would be cute if they are super close. But if he has someone else in mind, he should ask them.

It may not be common but honestly I think its fine, he may suggest who is your bridesmaids or MOH but he can not force you who to pick/have , if he truly wants it let him have it. It's not worth the pain of telling him no. My FH wants his grandpa as a groomsman, I thought it was weird at first but it's his moment and he is so close to him. I dont want to cause him pain because I think it's weird ?

I've been to plenty of weddings and only been to one where the dad was the best man

I've never seen it but my FH's sister asked if their dad was going to be a groomsmen. We agreed on no and she said she thought he'd be hurt. But in my opinion it's more important he sits with FMIL and walks with her down the aisle and what not

Your Groom gets to choose who his Best Man will be. Period. Best wishes!

My FH is having his dad as the best man. They are very close and he respects his dad a lot. He has 2 good friends as his groomsmen. If he is happy, I am happy. It's not my call to make.

My ex-husband did in our wedding, it was sweet and I never gave it a second thought. I've never heard of it as a tradition though, & don't believe I've been to very many weddings where it was the case.