So when we first got engaged, we immediately started the guest list. This has been iffy the whole time as his grandma wants to invite the entire world (basically lol). But FH doesn’t want to include cousins at the ceremony, unless they’re in the wedding party, and has been vocal ab two of my cousins in particular not attending the ceremony(but will allow at the reception?). The reasoning for these two is that one would make rude remarks to FH (basically she doesn’t/ didn’t like him, unsure now since I quit taking him with me to see her) and the other is bc when we first said no cousins, she was mad that she couldn’t come. My whole list for the wedding, including bridesmaids, is 33 people. I’ve grown up with both cousins being involved heavily in my life until around 17-18 and tried explaining to him how I want them there, as I wasn’t really on board with the no cousins in the first place. FH has 3 blood first cousins, 1 is in the wedding party and he hasn’t spoke to the other 2 since a young age so they aren’t coming. I have 3 aunt/ uncles, who will be attending, who each have 2 kids of there own. We wanted to keep the ceremony small; only parents, grandparents, aunt and uncles but it has grown, since we both want all of our important loved ones with us. His ceremony list alone is close to 45 people, he doesn’t want so many people bc it will make him anxious to have all these people staring at him. But I just want to spend the day getting married and being surrounded by both families.
Send help 🙃
