Family Weddings Too Close

Just don't have it on the same day and it will be fine. No one is going to care about your cousin on your wedding day. They are going to care about you.

Unless her wedding is within 2 or so weeks of yours, I don't think you'll have anything to worry about. Just focus on your wedding and how you want it and disregard anything she is doing!

Agree with others. you get a day. we waited until 6 weeks after my hubby's cousin's wedding but we didn't have to. it's not your cousin's fault that you waited two years

Yes - but I'm on the other side. FH's nephew proposed to his gf before my FH proposed to me, and they chose April l. When FH proposed and we looked at dates, we chose March. We didn't choose the month before to upstage them - we're both teachers and our date falls in Spring Break. If we didn't choose that date, we'd have to wait until June - and that's too hot for Houston. Maybe they also had a scheduling thing.

Honestly I would be irritated, but only to myself. I would never voice it to anyone because I know it's irrational to be angry over that.

Your cousin getting married doesn't take away from your day. Please try to let it go. Enjoy your successes and your wedding.

Lee and I booked our wedding for next August. We made no secret that August was when we were having the wedding. My cousin and her wife then scheduled their own ceremony and celebration (they had a quickie legal wedding here in DC last year) for April of next year in SC. It's four months before my own. Not a problem right?

WRONG. I have family members unsure which one they are going to. Since mine is out of the country (Mexico), guess which one they will probably choose? Yep, the easier and cheaper one to get to.

I'm not even mad. I never was. I don't care.

Don't be concerned. Just focus on what you and your FH are doing. Me and my FH joke that when we got engaged July this year alot of his friends followed along. He has 4 friends now that have just gotten engaged, asked him for advice, etc! Lol honestly just shake it off and do your own thing.

I'm in a bit of the same boat. I was engaged last Christmas and have been planning a May 2014 wedding since then. Within the last two months, two other cousins got engaged and emailed out save the dates (before my website was even finished, lol). One is getting married in March, the other in August and people had to RSVP back in October for both of them....so I doubt my guest count will be anything so astronomical...mostly because their weddings are both on cruises.

It happens. it is more common than you would think. I got married on 11/9 and my Husband's brother is getting married this weekend (ROYAL WEDDING-WOOT) The only thing that sucks is that a lot of his family is making the trip out for Christmas and their wedding, but didn't come to ours. Sometimes it works out that way but they are definitely getting the benefit of a major holiday 4 days before their wedding.

My FH's cousin is getting married the weekend after us at the same church with a reception at the same hotel. I could care less and actually think it is a funny coincidence. It will be fine!!!

I have a similar situation and I understand how you feel (we can't help how we feel, even if know we shouldn't feel that way) I've been engaged 2 years. Cousin got engaged a several months ago and is having her wedding 2 weeks after ours. Not really anything you can do about it but focus on making your day special for you.

I was more worried about people comparing our events, but, now that we've both been in the planning process I've realized our weddings are going to be so completely different it will be like apples and oranges (she's doing a day-time country/camo on a farm and I'm doing an evening formal wedding with a cocktail reception in a ballroom). We've actually been able to share tips and things we've found and it has turned out to be kind of nice.

My brother and his fiance got engaged a few months before us and their wedding was originally set for April of 2015 but now it is 5 weeks before ours. Don't look at it as your cousin is trying to steal your thunder...look at it as an amazing year for your family! No matter what, the day is going to be about you.

Yes I do know how you feel lol!

My cousin got engaged a month after myself. We went dress shopping the same weekend ( we live in different states ) and we bought the same dress the same day!! Her date is a couple months before mine so it's pretty awkward...

Oh and they also chose the same colors as us :/

Sort of, sort of not. My aunt (heyoooo...she's on here) got engaged a month after I did. I've been with my FH for 5 years, she has been with her FH forrr....idn...a year and a half? My wedding is at the beginning of the summer, and hers is at the end of the summer. So I say sort of because I have a family wedding close to mine. but i say sort of not because I don't feel that either of our weddings will be overshadowed by the other. Like others said, I wouldn't have wanted them to be in the same month, but mostly because I feel like out of town family would be burdened. Our weddings will be very different because, well, we are two different brides. I am very happy for me, but I am very happy for her too. I can't wait to have TWO big parties this summer!

You can't expect all your relatives to wait until you are ready to get married to plan their weddings. Your day will still be as special as it was before. If your weddings are more than a week apart I wouldn't think twice about it. Focus on your own wedding, and ignore what you hear going on with your cousin's wedding.

FH has an aunt that got married late October last year, and an uncle that got married early November. I'm not sure which was planned first, but no one seemed upset by it at all. Actually, the uncle officiated the first wedding and will be doing ours as well lol. They were both out of town for us, which would've been rough if I had to pay for anything (luckily my FIL's are awesome).

I have one of my bridesmaids, that I am also a bridesmaid for, getting married New Years of next year. Then another close friend in the same group of people has her wedding 3 days later. No one is looking at it as overshadowing the other or not getting their moment...the only concern is people having to take multiple days off work (some are already off for new years though)

My Mother announced her wedding for spring 2013 (after i planned mine for 2013 summer) so i switched mine to fall 2013 then she moved her date to summer 2013 so i moved mine to 2014 to avoid hers. It was A ridiculous and B slightly complex to reschedule vendors. But it had to be done. Dont think anything of it. Its Ok to be slightly stressed, but just think, 100 years ago youd have a joint wedding

I know how you feel! My fiancés older brother proposed to his girlfriend 7 days after we got engaged and their wedding is three weeks before ours. I feel like we didn't get to celebrate our engagement or our wedding!