Has anyone else ever struggled with family members being upset about bridal party choices? FH and I come from very large families and are trying to have a small ceremony. Both of us have younger siblings, he has nieces and nephews, and he also has a daughter. Certain family members have expressed anger about the fact that my soon to be stepdaughter (3.5 yrs old)was asked to be flower girl over my 9 year old sister. I don't know how to explain and keep everyone happy.
ETA: the big issue is that I have 6 siblings (age 6 up to age 19) that if I include one, I am expected by my mom to include all of them so as not to pick favorites.