Family trying to invite more people. Help!

I am LITERALLY going through this now. I have politely asked guests to only come as the invite was addressed -- and NO KIDS. Its also on our website and invite.

Good response!!

Like some other comments - this is an easy fix if the wedding is adults only and you can simply tell her that in a quick phone call/email.

Even though y'all are not close to her, try and think the best, that she simply misunderstood the invitation, that way you aren't going in guns blazing and there won't be any conflict. I would still have FH reach out to her individually on this, or if he is not comfortable, enlist in your FMIL to speak to her about it. I would consider inviting the fiancé though, if it is in your budget, as this is someone who will also be a part of the family soon and isn't just some random date she's picking up the week before the wedding good luck!

This isn't a plus one situation and there's no maybe to inviting this person. She's engaged. The fiance should have been invited to begin but wasn't because the OP didn't know he existed. He needs to be included.

If she in engaged, she should automatically get a plus 1. I can understand not allowing for the kids but you can't expect people to come without their spouse!

The need for replies to this forum is now over.

When is your headcount due? If you absolutely have no declines at this point, let her know that and also that you'll let her know asap when you get a decline so she can bring her FH. I would tell her, however, that the kids will not be able to be accommodated. And apologize for not inviting her FH in the first place.

Good advice, I agree

Again the need for responses to this forum is now over.

Yeah I think you need to invite the fiance... the kids can easily be a no go if you are having a kid free wedding!

I created this forum and the problem has been SOLVED, no more responses needed.

You can certainly stop reading additional responses, but you can't tell people to stop responding. It doesn't work like that. BTW, you created the post, not the entire forum.

On my invites, I have no kids because this saves us money and allows for everyone to have a good time without worrying about kids. May sound harsh but its facts. I would just tell him, hey we have limited seating so she cannot bring the kids.