Family Ties

That is very rough, but unfortunately couples have had to make difficult decisions and maybe that was the only date that was available at the venue they wanted. Also were your aunts even aware that you planned on taking them to brunch?

Yep! Let it go. Have a “thank you” brunch with your aunts a few days before the wedding instead.

I dont see the problem 🤷🏽‍♀️ U get married first, you should be enjoying your spouse on a honeymoon and forget about the cousin’s wedding, you can take your aunts out any day after they get back

People have had such times sched and downsizing, that I would let it go. You can have a do for family who helped you after your honeymoon, if you cannot find it 2 weeks before your wedding. The fact that they aunties are still going to hers, after going to yours ( she likely checked to see they could) is what matters. Accessory parties not so much.

I think your family member was probably thinking "everyone will be in the same place, let's both get married." While I can see being annoyed, I actually think it will be quite fun for you to get married and then get to go to a big free party and keep the good times rolling. We all get cagey about our wedding date because it's so important to us, but each of us really does only get one day, and people can be happy for everyone in one weekend.

My advice: feel your feelings, then let it go and focus on your amazing wedding

I can understand why you’re annoyed with this but there isn’t anything that can be done. You get 1 day & your cousin gets her day. Either take your aunts out before or after turn Jamaican trip. Either way that’s gonna be one heck of a party week!

Your feelings are valid but I would let it go. Have a brunch with the aunts at another time.

I think you have a right to be upset, but for your own sake you should let it go. That’s super unfortunate. Definitely sucks! I’d like to think she didn’t mean or plan for this to be the case and is probably equally bummed about you and other guests not being at her wedding. It definitely sucks and you had announced it first and everything but there’s just nothing you can do about it now.

View Quoted Comment Eh. I doubt that but yes 3/7 of my aunts knew.

View Quoted Comment I teach. Going throw the week isn’t really realistic.

View Quoted Comment My wedding is in Los Angeles hers is in Jamaica.

View Quoted Comment Probably just going to make them baskets now.

You’re absolutely allowed to feel how you’re feeling, but I’d say best to feel it and then let it go. As others have said, rescheduling has put lots of couples in a really tough spot when it comes to lining everything up for a new date. Missing out on a brunch will only spoil things for you if you let it.

View Quoted Comment Oh I read that wrong. Will everyone be able to make both then? If not, I actually think that's reason to not let it go

View Quoted Comment No problem! Maybe brunch the weekend before your wedding or instead of brunch it’s a nice restaurant for dinner after work. If your goal is to thank your aunts, then the options are plenty... and nothing you do has to overlap your cousin’s wedding at all (since you have between now and September).

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Everyone won't make it to both. A few people are skipping mine to be in Jamaica for the full weekend.

View Quoted Comment Yeah I'm going to break with everyone then and say that she's in the wrong for scheduling a destination wedding the same weekend as another family wedding, and you can gently raise this issue with her and express your disappointment that not everyone will be able to make your wedding because of it

View Quoted Comment Welp it’s for sure spoiled.

View Quoted Comment Honestly just going to get them small gifts now.

View Quoted Comment Everyone ones one here keeps saying it will be fine, let it go but I highly doubt this would go over as smooth if it was their day. I know Covid has been a pain but out of all the days to choose.