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Family telling me to invite someone?!

Farrah, on June 19, 2019 at 10:09 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 7

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Okay so rant.

A few weeks ago, my mom called me and told me my (distant) cousins asked her why they didn’t get an invite, so she told me to “make sure” I send one. Mind you we are paying for our own wedding. I kindly told her I wish we could invite everyone but unfortunately we are over our guest count and we couldn’t afford to accommodate everyone.

AND THEN today my dad texted me. Him and my stepmom (who has been with him my whole life) are getting a divorce. They are BOTH still invited because they are both a part of my life. Well he told me that he or my step mom might be dating other people at the time of my wedding so to keep that in mind for my guest count. WHAT. I have never been so mind blown than I am right now. I told him that him and my stepmom will both receive an invitation but to understand that the invite will NOT extend to a plus one. My wedding is 3 months away and their not even divorced yet.

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Latest activity by Melle, on June 20, 2019 at 1:17 PM

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Yoice · on June 19, 2019 at 10:31 PM
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Wow this is hard. First one you handled right and shouldn’t be any future issue but the second one I can see drama in the future. You gave your dad the correct answer and hopefully it stays there and they understand that even if they are dating other people you don’t want either one to have plus one to avoid drama and tension. Is about you two and they should put their differences aside. Either way people often don’t put themselves in your shoes and opening up and being honest is the best.
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Pirate & 60s Bride · on June 19, 2019 at 10:47 PM
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What the F. Argggg. So sorry you have to deal with this. No, you don’t need to let them bring a date. Ignore for now. 🤦‍♀️
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Katherine · on June 19, 2019 at 11:16 PM
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If they aren't paying then they don't get to add people willy nilly. Even if they were paying, it would still be annoying and it feels last minute!
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Clíodhna · on June 20, 2019 at 6:48 AM
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I'm so sorry you have to deal with this Farrah.
I can understand why you're so frustrated.
You're completely right, you and your FS are footing the bill so you have complete control of your guest list.
I feel like you're approaching this the right way by politely informing them that this person won't be invited due to limited guest count and that no one can be given plus ones at this point for the same reason.
You're nearly there so try not let it get you down
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Kelly · on June 20, 2019 at 7:46 AM
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What in Earth! You handled that gracefully.
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D · on June 20, 2019 at 11:24 AM
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Wowza. You handled those situations nicely.
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on June 20, 2019 at 1:17 PM
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Oh my gosh. You handled this well though. Sorry for all that, people are just so annoying about plus ones sometimes
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