Family Photo Etiquette

I don't see that going over well, to be honest. Especially if she's sensitive. It seems really rude. And they are married, even if it's his sixth one.

At my cousin's wedding my brother's girlfriend at the time was told to get into the pictures (they'd been together for years) and THAT NIGHT she broke up with him. Sooo there's always a chance.

But my FH has waited to the side of family photos with no problems. In my opinion, it depends on the person.

I kind of feel like as a 6th wife she would have to know it's coming. I would be wanting the same thing. He may be on to wife 7 by the time you even get your pictures! I'm kidding, I know nothing about them, but I personally don't think it's rude. She didn't birth him or raise him so she can't expect to be as heavily involved in pictures as the one(s) that did. You don't have to be rude about it, just have the photographer say something like okay next up husband's mom and dad. That way you aren't like, can you please get out? Good luck!

She has no reason to be in your pictures. Who cares about her feelings

I honestly think it's pretty rude, and could be seen as disrespectful to their marriage. She isn't the one on her sixth husband, and she probably loves him. I think if you want a photo with just parents (his mom and dad, and your mom and dad), you could probably ask your photographer if there is an elegant way to do this, but she should be in the rest, in my opinion.

I don’t want either of my parents so’s in their my pics but neither are remarried. It’ll just be my grandmother, parents and brother

I think you’ll be fine because wanting just his parents in some pictures is totally reasonable. I mean unless she had a major part in raising him she should understand. I think as long as you do include her in some it will be fine.

I think if you also take pictures with just Mom and your parents individually without SOs it should be fine. She should be in most of the group shots though.

I was with a guy for years, thought we would get married, the whole shebang. Well we didn't (thank god!) But now I'm in a family picture hanging above his grandma's mantle. Since then I've always made sure to be in a crop-able space in every family picture with my now FH. When we got engaged, I finally felt good about really being in the picture. Perhaps this is your way around this without hurting her feelings? Hopefully she will be his last wife and this will be a forgotten point down the road.

His sixth wife or not, she’s family! LIke others have stated she can be in some pictures and she should understand that she won’t be in the ones that call for Mom and Dad. But yes include her.

Sixth wife or not that doesn't make her any less family, that is his dads wife and that would be disrespectful not to include her or say that most of them she isn't allowed to be in. It's ok for her to step out for one with him and his parents but otherwise she needs to be included.

I think it’s okay to do some without her. Our parents are all still married and we still plan to do some photos individually with each of our parents.

View Quoted Comment Lol 7th wife!

I wouldn't include her but if you do, just make sure to get some without her too

I was at at wedding where both the groom's parents were remarried, and had been for years. They still did some pictures with just them and not the SO's. I think as long as you do some with and some without you should be ok. Just don't make it look like you are taking the exact same picture without her in it.

Yes, it is rude. She is family. She should be in all family photos. She does not need to be in photos that are just biological parents.

Have her alternate in out of photos, but have your photographer direct it. That's how my photographer handled it with my moms "boyfriend" I don't particularly care for.

I would do some with and without. If I were the wife and didn’t raise you I would expect this and may even mention it to you. You deserve some with just your parents.

It's you and your spouse's pictures, you can choose who is in them

Do some with out! just have your photographer direct traffic.

I was with my last partner for 7 years, and I’m in his sisters wedding photos, like all of the family ones, and I feel SO BAD. that they don’t have any family wedding photos without me.

View Quoted Comment Katie, I think you stated it perfectly and I'm sure the photographer could handle that.