Family not involved with planning

No one will be as excited as you are for your wedding..

Honestly, my family had zero clue what the wedding would be like until they showed up. I live in a different state and it just wasn't possible to plan together. And everything turned out fine. You can do it on your own, so don't ruin relationships trying to force people into helping you.

Yes ma'am!! Going through that now. Just focus on your wedding. Someone posted this one day "no one will be as excited about your wedding as you are". That really helped me. I stopped focusing on who was excited for me or even who was going to help. I just use Google, Amazon, Pinterest, different wedding sites, and my Fiance to keep me encouraged. Your wedding will be FAB! With or without anyone's help!

Your new mantra: "No one cares about my wedding as I do."

It doesn't mean they don't care. It doesn't mean they aren't interested. It just means that they won't always ask, they won't always help, and they won't always cheer with glee at each new development. Want a room full of people who get excited about weddings and are willing to help? You found it

Don't blame them. They're only human. As happy as they are for you, it's not really happening to them.

Thanks. I just let it go and have been doing it all on my own pretty much. I'm glad I'm not the only one who has experienced this though.

@Mrsschaub2017 that's exactly what I've read on this site. It helped me tremendously!

Great advice @LoveinDC!!

@Lona I. I don't even bring up my wedding anymore unless they ask about it & I keep it short & sweet! Just plan your wedding hun & enjoy the process. Remember at the end of the day it's about "YOU & YOUR FIANCE" no one else.

I understand just how you feel. My mom and aunt are excited but my sisters (really my cousins but we were raised as sisters) they felt some type of way about me not asking them to be in my wedding which I don't understand considering they know just how close my girlfriends and I are. Now it's like a sensitive topic speaking on it around them. It hurts like crap bc you expect everyone to be so happy. But just be encouraged it gets hard and discouraging my fiancé family is already funny acting so it's really just us financially preparing everything. I could literally go on and on but I hope your big day is everything and more.

Yep, hardly anyone in my family is excited. No one asks but only my sister may talk about it with me. No one is helping either.

Usually the wedding talks right now are only happening because they are finding out for the first time, other than that, no one asks about it.

But it is fine, I don't want us to become the "wedding couple" anyways and only talk about that stuff.

Yeah I feel the same way. I don't have any sisters, except for a cousin that I consider her pretty close. My mom passed away so no real female figures on my side. However 3 of my really good friends are getting married next year as well and it has been chatting with them and sharing notes on vendors. So at least I have some support there people that are on the same boat

Yes my in laws were not involved hardly at all. They had no idea how much work we spent on DIY Decor and making things like seating chart and signs and guest book until they walked into the rehearsal dinner. But they weren't just indifferent, they actively said they wanted nothing to do with it. It was super hurtful but I think they felt horrible when guests were saying how gorgeous the space was and loved it and it was no thanks to them. Indifference is acceptable but animosity hurts :-( but you just have to let it be. No one will be as excited as you but yes it's nice to have some interest.

While I don't have a similar situation, I can empathize with doing it alone, and honestly it was kind of by design.

FH and I have lost both mother's and my grandma in the last 4 years and we're not sure if his dad will be around for our wedding next year. FH has brothers that he does not consider family anymore and I'm an only child.

While sometimes I look at the other brides going dress shopping with mom's and friends and sisters and stuff and get sad because that will not be the case for me (all my bridal party is back at home in OR and I'm in VA)...

But then I see all the drama that goes along with it too, sometimes, and I realize it is what it is and it'll all work out

Some people just aren't that interested in wedding planning. Try not to take it personally. My mom was really uninvolved and I don't think it would've even crossed her mind to go dress shopping with me. I know she loves me and was happy for me though, and honestly knowing her personality I didn't really expect her to care much about those things.

Didn't see this post and jus posted about the same thing. My step sister jus had a baby and everything is the baby this and the baby that and my wedding is just been pushed aside. It's so hard for me for some reason. I feel really jealous and kind bitter I guess. I think it's even harder for me cuz I feel like how can I be upset when she's not my real mom and the baby is actually blood related but it doesn't hurt any less.

I made a post similar to this months ago and the ladies told me the same thing " no one cares about your wedding as much as you do". I went dress shopping myself -- - every wedding related shopping for that matter.

I've done most of it by myself & that's been by choice. It makes things so much easier when there aren't multiple opinions. I do talk with my sister, also my moh, about big stuff but not about minor details. One of my bridesmaids has been very active on my Pinterest board but she lives on the other side of the US so she isn't a ton of help bc of that.

I hate that you feel alone though. Definitely not a good feeling!

Yes!! I was going through the same thing! I wasn't being annoying about anything at all.. Never spoke to her about anything besides dates to look for BM dresses..come to find out She stopped talking to me because she HATES FH.. Well her loss but I hope everything is alright between you and your sister.. Just give her time..

I get that nobody is going to be as excited about your wedding as you are, but it still sucks and hurts when nobody is enthusiastic at all! Do you have any other friends that might be happy to go along dress shopping with you?

I have also been having this problem! Ughh! I want to actually plan and when I say something it gets tossed to the side. I am already married and this is a renewal so I am confused! I want to look at venues and I never hear anything back. They love my husband and we hang out and shop together at least 3 times a week. Idk