Family Drama

You know what I would do?
Nothing, absolutely nothing.
Go ahead as planned, those that love you most will be there.
In all fairness your date was set first so your Aunt should honor.
Happiness is the best revenge!

Thank All of you.... The love and support have been VERY needed and appreciated.

I hope I can convince my Aunt. Like I said: I don’t have much family, and my Aunt is not that young or healthy- and given that My wedding has been set for almost a year date wise and is local
to my Aunt I am hoping to convince her to stay for ours.... She is coming to the Rehersal Dinner- so maybe she won’t “feel well” enough to make her flight!

I can see my cousin choosing the same date as mine (not that she's getting married), not out of spite, but because she's just that selfish. She and her brother didn't even come to either of our grandmother's memorial services. The services were 3 weeks apart. That behavior is part of the reason we are having a ceremony with parents and siblings only. I didn't want to deal with the drama of their family. Good luck to you! I hope your aunt goes to your wedding.

This is just so mind blowing that someone could act like this, you don't deserve this! I hope everything works out!

Wow, this sounds really crazy. I really hope you find a solution! I know this kind of thing would drive me crazy!

View Quoted Comment The worst part is that I am, sadly, used to the horrid behavior from my cousin and her 24yo( my mom corrected me in her age!) Daughter.

It hurts more than anything because most of my family is older & a lot have passed away in the last 5yrs

Background on my Cousin, Michelle & her daughter Brittany;
All I can say is at least my Grandparents aren’t here to see this mess! Although I know they'd be at my wedding- as my cousin and her daughter never had anything to do with them.
THAT is why my cousin has Such an issue with me- our grandparents had my mom and I live with them when my dad was overseas in the Army, and we went to Disneyworld 1x, & had tons of holidays together, and the jealousy was there. My Aunt and her 3 kids, teens when I was born/little, were always invited they just never came- including to my Grandfathers funeral!!!! They came to my Grandmothers but only Bc they were guilted!

Also to clarify my Aunt did NOT tell my cousins kid to change her date- she accidentally told them the date when she said “I’m soooo Happy I can come to Both your and Jennifers weddings! Since they are on different weekends!!”. To be fair to Aunt, I never told her to NOT tell Michelle or her spiteful daughter, hindsight and all that.
She has also said that she wished with all her heart that she could just be at mine: 1) It’s “Harry Potter themed and gonna be sooooo much more fun( her words lol)
2) She knows I, actually truly, Want her at my wedding.
3) It’s closer to her- and given her age and health that is a Huge concern.
4) It will be less drama and hurt feelings. Her daughter, and her 2 boys and female cousins kids are rather hateful towards her( as in her grandson getting married and only having “family” there and m Aunt excluded to point of not knowing and seeing it on Facebook!)
So, I can hope that the horrid ones wedding falls apart( poor guy- wonder if he truly knows what he’s gettin into?!), my Aunt will decide that the above 4 reasons make more sense- and let me tell ya that #3 is a HUGE concern- for my
mom( her younger sister) and I!

but, Yeah, it hurts and is, obviously, making me a lil crazy!

Were you going to invite this cousin and her family to your wedding?

View Quoted Comment No, I was Not inviting my cousin nor any of her 3 adult children.
Yes, I was planning on inviting my 2 male cousins & their wives( as we are having an adults only, especially given our venue location.)

That's so petty, I'm sorry you're dealing with that