Falling out with Bridesmaid, advice?

I meant to add -

If you asked her to change her appearance, you might have shocked her pants off and made her reevaluate your friendship. I'd attribute her flaky behavior to that before I'd go thinking jealousy or something else.

^ agreed

I didn't mean to say that she was/is jealous. Someone asked if there could be more at play, considering her past, I said that might be something. Getting married isn't something I accomplished or earned. She was being flaky before I said anything about her hair, I believe she was busy, and I tried to work around her schedule.

I would send her an apology gift, but like I said, I don't have her address.

I don't think she was jealous that you were getting married. (why do people always say that?) She was probably pissed that you basically said her hair was unacceptable to be in your wedding. You knew she had blue hair, so why wouldn't you think about that if you were trying to have a certain vision?

If I had a close friend covered in tattoos, face piercings, and rainbow colored hair, I wouldn't ask her to change a thing. I mean honestly, couples don't frame photos of their bridal party for their home.

I think you need to call your friend or write her a letter apologizing to her.

Oh, sorry I missed that you don't have her address. Do you have a mutual friend who could maybe get it for you? Can you reach out to her on FB or something?

What kind of appointments did you want her to attend that she flaked out on? Was it just the standard stuff, like a few trips to pick out BM dresses? Or was there more?

It could be she was super busy, got overwhelmed with the wedding stuff, and just checked out. Or, maybe something else was going on in your friendship and the hair thing pushed her over the edge.

It sucks you might never know. I've made tons of mistakes with friends and I've had a few falling-outs before. It's the worst feeling. But some of those have come full circle with time. If you send her good vibes, do your best to reach out, maybe you guys will reconnect.

I've sent her an apology on facebook, then she blocked me. Really I can't think of a way to contact her. Our mutual friends don't really want to get involved. She missed just about all the appointments that she previously agreed to come to.

I really wasn't trying to say that I'm superior for getting married, I think people really mis interpreted that. She has a rough past of dealing with her parents marriage and her own relationships. She and I have been really close, and she was the first person I told about getting engaged. I know it sounds ignorant, but I assumed she'd agree that we'd do something about her hair, looking back, I see that was a mistake. I think we both assumed she'd be a bridesmaid.