Extra Tables

We are not providing extra tables, but we are also making sure to get an RSVP from everyone. I'm not spending the money to accommodate guests who can't bother to RSVP. If it was just extra tables, it would be one thing, but you would also need to feed them. If you don't get a response, reach out to them and say "I noticed that we haven't received your RSVP. Our final headcount is due on xday. If we don't hear from you by yday, we will assume that you're unable to attend." That way they know that there won't be a seat or a plate for them.

If it's within your budget and you want to provide extra tables, go for it. For us that would mean tables, linens, napkins, place settings, and centerpieces for someone who might show up. Just not worth it. I think that adults should be responsible enough to just RSVP. Why don't you follow up with your guests instead of having your mom do it? They may be more responsive.

No, were not adding extra tables. I would reach out to them yourself and tell them you need to know by X ( pick a date) if they are coming or not and if they are still unsure by that date they will be a no and can not come. Its going to look weird having empty tables and it will also throw off your count with the caterer (if you are using one) and you will be paying for more people then you will have, I see it as a waste of money.

I'm not doing any extra prep for those who refuse to RSVP. There are three people on my FW's side that just won't give a response, and another that is being really flaky all of a sudden and actually told us to give her invite to another friend while we were all at dinner with said friend who wasn't invited!!! FW doesn't like upsetting people, but my overplanning brain has had it, and as far as I'm concerned if they didn't RSVP, they aren't coming.

I got an answer from every single guest, since I told them I marked them as a "no" if they just wouldn't respond. We had 1 no show, everything else worked out great. We had extra chairs in the back and planned for 5 extra meals/settings in case a plate broke or people ate more than anticipated, etc.

No, I'm not planning an extra tables. Our venue/caterer automatically builds in a buffer of extra food, just in case, because the whole thing is a buffet.

As for those guests who don't RSVP? This is not ok, and I will track down every last one of them who fails to respond by the deadline. Oh, you're not sure yet? Ok, well then I'm not sure I'll have a seat or a meal for you.

I'm not going to just settle for that b.s. I will politely explain that the caterer needs an accurate head count, and any no-shows will cost us extra money. I have no problem telling people that in order to get them to commit one way or the other.

No I am not including extra tables. It's important to give them a firm date for your deadline even after the RSVP date passes. And let them know if they do not reply by then that you'll have to mark them as no and that you would be happy to celebrate with them another time. Honestly as well, I have never heard from any of my friends that extra people showed up or people that rsvp'd no to their weddings. Being on WW is the only time I hear people speculating about it.

But it seems with your wedding in 11 days you didn't take the approach of getting firm answers from everyone so I say it's your choice. It wouldn't be an option in my mind, I am getting firm answers.

Nope. We will have tables and chairs for the guests we know are coming and that is it. We have expressed numerous times about the venue capacity so if uninvited, non-rsvp'ers come, they will not have a seat.