Extra Small, Small, Medium, Large, Extra Large, and Event Sized Weddings

I think I'm having a large wedding (100 guests) but FH's family thinks it's almost an intimate wedding. Their weddings are usually between 300-400 people.

In what you would say we are having an "extra large" wedding. But we both have large families (my mom 1 of 9, my dad 1 of 5, his mom 1 of 6 and his dad is only 1 of 2) and wanted friends there as well. We also gave everyone over 21 that is single a plus one.

FH's has two cousins over 18 and if they have SO's at the time of the wedding, they will be invited as a unit. So without giving everyone a plus one, we would be in the "large size" wedding.

I would agree with Mrs Coakley in the sizes. Which essentially are the same for me as your's

I also agree most closely with @Mrs C. We invited 99, which to me was medium breaching on large (I'm from a VERY small family, but FH has a much larger family). Now that it's looking like our max number of guests will be between 81-85, it definitely feels more medium sized.

I had 85 people attend the wedding. It felt small to me, but I agree with it being medium sized. I would not consider it large.

I also agree with 100 being the border between med and large.

I've been calling mine medium and inviting 130

I don't think it has much to do with introverts versus non-introverts. They may feel like 20 people is large, but 20 people is not large. I mean, that's just a fact.

There are some things about guest lists that are somewhat subjective and other things that just aren't. For instance, we can argue about whether "intimate" implies 10 guests or 20 guests. But I think we can all agree that "intimate" doesn't imply 100 guests.

We are having 18 guests and I consider it very small or intimate.

My first wedding had 60 and to me that was medium, for me I personally couldn't imagine a larger wedding. I felt like I barely got enough time with the 60 that were there and wished for more time. I personally hate large events or busy bars and much prefer a dive bar or house party with less than 20 people.

I do think this is relative based on families and cultural expectations. I considered most of my friends who had weddings under 80-100 people as having a small wedding. FH and I joke that we are having a "small" Greek wedding with around 250 people invited. To put that into perspective, most of the weddings in FH family are around 500, my family is a little smaller so around 200 just feels normal.

I'd say that anything under 40 would seem like an intimate wedding to me, under 150 seems small, 150-300 seems medium or normal, anything between 300-500 feels large, and over 500 is an extra-large event?

So many factors go into this; culture, family size, and attitude.

I think it should go by budget.

2-4 people ; how cool is this, we're just as married and we're not hemmoraging money!

4-20 people What a nice wedding! It's so cool, almost relaxing! Still inexpensive!

20-50 people Look at all these people! I know them all! We can talk to them all! A little more money than we thought, but a great party!

50-100 people Nice party! Who knew it would cost this much, but we're not living on ramen!

100-150 people Favors? Who need favors? Who's Aunt Sue anyway?

150 and above; We could have bought a third of a house. Why did we do this? Who are those people at table 12? Are they at the same wedding?

For our purposes, small is 50 or under. And we totally love them.

I agree with Coakley. And Celia lol. I wanted a smallish wedding but have a ton of people from the parents (who are contributing) who they say must be invited but won't attend. So I set a hard line at 100 invitees (which we can afford if it happens) and I'm hoping my mom and FMIL are right about the extended family we're inviting to be polite.

We're doing an elopement, then. It'll be us, our officiant, and our photographer. Four people total in attendance. My state doesn't require any witnesses so we, thankfully, don't have to figure out who to bring with us and who to exclude without hurting feelings. We toyed with the idea of a small wedding (no more than 30 guests including FH and I) but it didn't feel right for us, budget wise. We basically thought in terms of budget like @Celia mentioned.

I have 153 confirmed guests. I think 200 and over is large. I think my wedding is medium sizee

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I roll my eyes when people say "our small wedding of 100 - 150 people"

I'm having 100-130 people at my wedding (130 invited but guesstimating about 100 for sure though we're planning on paying for the 130) and I wouldn't consider my wedding large. That's an average size wedding to me and average means medium. 150 and up would be large and 250 and up would be extra large. Less than 100 people small and less that 50 people would be extra small.

For me, I think my wedding is small and it will have about 55 people. In my family, weddings consist of all aunts and uncles and cousins and cousins children. That is what is usually accepted as a wedding.

We're planning on 110. Either the smaller side of a large wedding or the larger side of a medium wedding.

When I first got engaged I envisioned a small wedding of like 20-30 people. I would say small is up to 50 or so. 50-100 is medium. Over that is big to me. Extra big would like 200+. I'm having a medium sized wedding of 85

I would say small would be under 50-60. Medium would be under 100. Average wedding is 100-150 guests.

In my family everyone invites all of the uncles/aunts/first cousins. So my cousin had what we would consider a small wedding last year, which was about 100 people - and the couple only invited a handful of close friends.

My guest list has about 250, which in my mind is medium/average, although I realize it's extra large to many people here.