Extra Small, Small, Medium, Large, Extra Large, and Event Sized Weddings

Small Wedding -23 – 49 (I was actually debating with myself on whether the cut off should be 40)

Medium sized wedding: 50 – 80 (I feel like “medium-sized” anything is generally tough to peg down?)

Large wedding: 81 – 199 (120 guests is allegedly the “average” sized American wedding. I imagine this could either be a very generous guest list or a limited one, depending on the sizes of the partner’s families)

Extra Large Wedding: 200 -349 (This sized wedding I imagine could either be a case of both partners having EXTREMELY large families and/or leaning towards an “event” style wedding where couple has essentially invite ALL extended relatives, colleagues, friends of their parents, etc.)

Extra-EXTRA large / Event Wedding: 350 or more (This is definitely what I’d consider an “event” sized wedding. I would imagine few venues are going to be able to accommodate more than 350 guests and I usually picture a “gala” type event for this many people)

ETA for typo

Extra small wedding: 25 guests or fewer

Small wedding: 25-60 guests

Medium wedding: 60-120 guests

Large wedding: 120-200 guests

Extra large wedding: 200-300

Event sized: 300 or more

We had a nice medium wedding at 107 guests!

I've been calling our wedding "medium" because we invited 80, but I only expect 30ish, as it's a DW.

@Asta -that's a good point! And I could definitely see introverted people or anyone with social anxiety feeling 20 guests is large.

My son and FDIL were set on your definition (one with which I agree) of an elopement (i.e., the two of them and four parents). That morphed into immediate family only (extra small/intimate) That morphed into immediate family only and a few friends (small). That morphed into 60 plus guests, and based on the RSVPs, it will definitely be "plus" (medium).

Now it's at a private room in a restaurant, at least eight tables, a wedding gown, tuxes, bouquets, bouts, corsages, tall centerpieces, six table-side dinner options, a full open bar, an officiant, make-up artists, etc.

Who knew that they really wanted the full blown affair in medium? Come September 9, I'll be a happy MOG. I love weddings -- intimate, small, medium, large, or extra large.

@Rachel D. -It's so easy to add on more guests especially when plus ones are added in but much much harder to cut anyone out! I agree with you -I've been to small, medium, and extra large weddings and enjoyed different aspects of each. =) And congratulations to your son and soon-to-be-daughter-in-law!

I agree with @Mrs. Coakley!

I think I'm having a small wedding with 40 guests.

I also agree with @Coakley.

We invited 88, which felt medium, and based on rsvps/guesses, are guessing we'll end up around 40-50, which seems small.

We're doing small 20-30'guests.

I agree it depends on the person, FH and I both have HUGE Catholic families so a small wedding of 60 people is small to the family. I would say ours under 80 people is definitely medium to most others. We just didn't want anything huge. I'd have been good eloping.

I consider ours small with 50 guests.

100 people, I'm considering that large. I would have preferred smaller... but... family... sigh. Maybe I should add my parents had over twice that many people attend, so my wedding seems small to them.

I agree with @mrs.coakley and her definitions of wedding sizes

I am also with Mrs C on the concrete numbers -- and also with Asta on how the numbers seem.

My ex husband was one of 7 siblings. His mom was one of 8. His dad was one of 13. So even leaving out all cousins, things added up quickly. We didn't consider it big, although the guest count got up there, because it was (almost) all immediate family.

FH and I have (much) smaller families but I consider our upcoming wedding pretty large because we invited lots of friends who weren't immediate family.

I agree with Coakley.

we are inviting 160 and I feel like that is a little large, but I have a big family.

If you asked my grandmother she would probably think a wedding under 200 was small, but shes used to everyone having 7-8 siblings and 20 cousins.

We are trying to not exceed 100 for venue and budget but eith extreamly large closnit families that means excluding anyone under 18 yeard old and all my cousins as that would put us pretty close to 200. I feel like 100 is medium but 200 is large.

In my personal opinion:

Extra small: under 20

Small: 20-80

Medium: 80-150

Large: 150-200

Extra large: 200-250

Event sized: 250 plus

We had 100 and I felt like that was medium based on numbers alone, but seeing everyone at the actual wedding it seemed on the larger side.

When we say our guest list is 60 most people say, "Oh that's small!". I don't think it's small at all. It feels more medium to me. And when I look at the guest list and think about all of the people, it feels large.