Exes in the Bridal Party

If you're comfortable with their friendship, I don't see why you wouldn't be comfortable having it on display in the wedding party. The idea that exes should always be in the past (I think) comes a little bit from the belief that men and women can't just be friends - it's a little outdated.

If you're comfortable with their friendship, I don't see why you wouldn't be comfortable having it on display in the wedding party. The idea that exes should always be in the past (I think) comes a little bit from the belief that men and women can't just be friends - it's a little outdated.

I think the concept is that the bridal party should be the people who are closest to you (which is why I don't get these massive bridal parties with people who don't seem to even be interested in being in them.....) I ran a business with my ex husband for years and we were best friends until he died, but it would never even occur to me to ask him to be in my bridal party, if the opportunity had presented itself.

It's not that they can't be friends, they can but this just seems a little odd.

Still, not my wedding, not my BP.......

If it doesn't bother you then I think it's fine. My FH dated a girl in high school who then married his best friend.. it's all good and FH was in the wedding party.

I didn't feel any way about it and they obviously didn't.

BUT this was a high school relationship.

Hell no. Your wedding is not the place for this type of arrangement.

Well if it works for you, then it's not a problem. Personally, I wouldn't be able to. FH still keeps in touch with his HS/early college ex-girlfriend, as well as her family. There hasn't been anything going on between them in nearly 20 years; hell, he has been married and divorced from someone else since that ex-girlfriend...but I still told him I did not want her or her family as guests at the wedding. Guess I'm old fashioned, but the only person at our wedding who should know my FH intimately is me.

My friends ex bf is her FHs groomsmen. I think that is odd!

I think this is a case by case basis. Usually I would say NO WAY!

But since she's lesbian now , don't think you need to worry about anything.

But question , Is there a reason you haven't met her ? That part seems odd to me ...

My FH actually "dated" one of my best friends for like 2 weeks and i am planning on asking her to be my MOH. But it wasn't a serious relationship though, I wouldn't have dated him if they were serious. They don't even consder it a relationship, but we like to joke about it though.But I think you're situation is a little different lol. Regardless, I think if you and your FH are comfortable with it then let her be in the party. I won't sugarcoat that it will get people talking, bc it might. But it's your wedding.

Honestly, I've never understood the issue with exes. This is one person you know that either your FH decided he didn't want to have a relationship with, or who decided she didn't want to have a relationship with your FH, so she's less of a threat than some random woman. And given that she has a partner and your FH has you, it doesn't sound like either of them is rethinking that decision. If she and FH are friends, he wants to have her as an attendant, and you're okay with it, I don't see the problem.

Personally, I see no issue with it. It's not strange to me. Especially coming from such a rural area (people rarely move out the area), a lot of couples would be hard pushed to have ZERO exes in a WP.

Strictly speaking (as in, we dated in highschool/secondary school. nothing serious and none lasted more than a couple months) we have two of my exes in the WP - the BM and one of the ushers.

I agree it's a case by case basis. For me it would depend on a lot of different factors. My closest male friend (if I had any males on my side it would be him) is an ex. The relationship itself was very complicated to say the least. But it was the kind of friendship that doesn't end. He saved my life in a way. He is married now. And very happy about my relationship and that I found someone who is there for me. But he is closer to me than any family member or friend that I have ever had (except fh).

Sometimes people make better friends the boyfriends or girlfriends.

@Julie - I haven't met her/her wife because they live in Maryland and we live in Indiana. She moved there at some point after college, and doesn't come back to our area very often. The last time he saw her was when he flew out for their wedding a few years ago. But we are friends on Facebook (her wife too), and we've messaged each other before.

I guess I might be in the minority here but am surprise to see the number of people who don't have an issue with it. An ex of mine actually introduced me / set me up with the man I'm marrying next week. He's in the bridal party. It all depends on the situation and if everyone is ok with it. My ex and I met a a mutual friend's wedding. We dated very briefly in our early 20's and realized very quickly we were just better off as friends. Granted there was no itamacy between us either. No one seems to think its weird or has any problem with it. If your comfortable with it and your FH is comfortable with it I don't see an issue with it.