Exes in a Wedding Party

Talk to the about it. It's been 2 years and after all, it's your guy's day and not theirs. Hopefully they can set aside any ill will and let y'all enjoy your day!

Ask both how they feel.

My MOH is my brothers ex, was not a pretty break up at all. But its been like almost 2 years and they are both okay with seeing each other at the wedding.

My sisters ex was a groomsman for her husband. Everyone was mature about it . Just talk to them about it .

If they are adults, they will put their feelings aside.

One of my bridesmaids and one of FH's groomsman were engaged at one point. Talk to them about it but I would hope that they can be adults for the sake of your wedding.

I'm in a very similar situation myself. My BM has already told me not to exclude one over the other in any events. She made a good point; she said: "If I don't feel comfortable with a situation I will leave. I'm not going to torture myself. We are both adults and we know how to act."

So just talk with each of them. I don't think it should be up to your bridal party to say if someone can also be a part of it or not, its your choice. But you should also be able to trust them not to make a scene either.

If they're adults they can get over for a little while. My fbil and best friend went out for 5 years (that's how I met her.) They had a bad break up about 5+ years ago. But he means alot to fh and she means alot to me, so we asked them to stand with us. They both accepted and have been grown ups about the situation. They aren't walking, standing, dancing, or anything with each other.