Excuse for not going to a wedding

I'm not gonna lie, I wouldn't mind some declines. Yeah, we saved enough money to properly host everyone we are inviting and I love everyone we are inviting (all 200 people). HOWEVER, if we get a few declines before we send in our final count, that could mean a couple extra hundred dollars we would save. That's extra spending money on our honeymoon the way I look at it... Don't worry about her or her reason.

Pretty poor excuse, but sounds like she just doesn't want to be there. Don't take it personally

And honestly the day of you won't even notice because you will so happy to marry your FH

Don't worry about it. They not into you. You'll have a wonderful day without them.

I'm with @Rosesarered....if i got a few declines, I wouldn't mind. Saves me the min of 100 bucks a person and gives me more time to mingle with the people that I want to see and thank. Just say I'm sorry to hear you can't make it. Safe travels. The end. It doesn't make or break you or the friendship.

Considering your wedding date is next weekend, I am going to assume you've already sent in final numbers, which means this person probably RSVPd yes and is now just telling you she can't because of the airport drop off.. that sucks, and is a pretty shitty thing honestly.. but would agree that they just aren't that into you.

What can you do besides cross their name off the list and move on? Also, maybe he's flying out of a different airport and not the one 10 minutes from your venue. The airport approximate 90 minutes from me has rates that can be anywhere from $300-$500 cheaper.

I wouldn't want to go to an 8 hour wedding either...

Here is my opinion on all things wedding (showers, bachelorette parties, the actual wedding): The people who want to come will (in most situations). There will be a few who really just can't make it and they will feel terrible. Then there will be some people who really just don't want to spend their weekend at a wedding or have other things to do that are more important to them and you might think their excuse is lame but it is what they chose. Don't let it ruin your day! There will be others there to support you and that is all you need to worry about!

Also, curious about why your wedding is 8 hours...that is a pretty long wedding and some people will leave early.

What everyone saying but at least she told you. I hate when people RSVP and not show up or tell you they change their minds super rude and make you waste food and seat.

I was stoked to get declines. I planned a bigger wedding because FH wanted one, but it wasn't necessarily what I wanted. That amount of people watching me all day gives me anxiety. But I digress.

FH's own brother declined (and we weren't sad about it). People decline for all sorts of reasons, and at the end of the day, it doesn't matter. The people who can show up will, and you will be happy to have them there.

As long as it isn't immediate family, just think "that's $x I'll save!" I do think it's rude that she offered up that reason though. Why not just decline like a normal person if you have no good excuse?

There isn't anything you can do, sounds like they just don't want to go and telling you passively instead of being a grown up.

Depending on where she's from, 8 hours is the norm if not a little short for a wedding up here. Our ceremony/receptions are usually from 2:00 or 3:00pm to 1:00 to 2:00am. It's also the norm overseas.

Nothing. People have the choice to say no. I would definitely remember that they prioritized that way and keep that in mind as a mental note but you can't say anything

I can second @JessieJV. 8 hours is not long for certain cultures and in certain countries. Nothing wrong with more party IMO!

People choose to say no. You can say, "Oh, we really wish you were going to be there, but we understand!" Or you can say nothing. That's up to you.

Think too, though, about why she's taking her boyfriend to the airport. Is he going off to visit family or friends for a few days? OK, maybe I would go to a wedding (alone) after that. Is he being deployed? I'm definitely NOT going to a wedding after that, because I will be a weepy mess and don't want to be out in public.

Nothing. If they don't want to come then they just don't want to come!

Nothing you can do.

The people that want to be there will be there.