Ex won't let son come to Our wedding. Anyone else go through this?

Off topic, how do you have NO star?

even if hes doing it just to be a jerk, which he probably is, the court still doesnt have to force him. tits 50/50 at this point, all in the judges hands. i hope for the best!!!

I was a paralegal for 15 years and here is my two cents:

Since there has already been a history of contention over custody and there is Order in place pertaining to visitation, follow the Order - to the letter. If you try to keep him, as some as suggested, some states consider that Custodial interference which is a CRIME. Go to Court, explain the alternative you offered and your willingness to compromise and it will all work out.

Edit: to correct grammar

Hi AndixLyn, I'm not sure what the stars mean. I have been using WeddingWire to plan my wedding for months, although this is the first time I'm posting in the forums.

Thank you again to everyone. I will just pray about it and take all of my info to court. I'm really tired of fighting with him. I just want to move on with my life.

Can you go to court and ask the judge for a "special consideration". Explain the situation to the judge. The judge may decide it is in the child's best interest to take a part of your special day since I'm sure he knows your son would want to take part. Hope that helps. Good luck with that. My son's father gets him ever other weekend, fortunately I made absolutely sure that I picked a weekend that was mine, so that we didn't have that similar situation. Because I know he wouldn't be considerate.

I agree with Cinnamon and based on your son's age the judge might even want to speak to him to understand what he wants to do.

I wouldn't have set the date regardless of how much I liked the venue, affordability, what date they had open, etc UNLESS I was 100% sure my child would be able to attend and it would be my weekend. I would have pushed the wedding back if necessary if there was nothing availiable on my weekend. I feel like this lies on your shoulders as well. No matter how well your ex has worked with you before on switching weekends, it is never guarenteed that he always will cooperate. While it is a shitty deal of your ex to refuse and use our son as a tool to get custody, you should have made sure he could attend prior to booking as much as you have. You've even ordered invitations and not had confirmation your son could attend.

He probably moved closer to be closer to his son. But I have to comment that moving across the street is a bit.... Umm.. Stalkerish. I hope the court judges in your favor.

We were afraid we would have this issue so instead of making it a big deal, we changed our venue and our wedding date to make sure I would have my kids for our wedding. We didn't even tell my ex when our wedding date was since it won't affect him at all and it keeps him from being able to do anything spiteful or crazy to ruin it. I'd honestly just change the date and the venue. It will probably be cheaper than going back and forth to court and not having a guarantee that you will have your son for quite some time.

Listen to SoonToBeMrsZ - I, too, worked as a legal assistant for a family law firm. It's unfortunate that your ex is not willing to play nice, but you certainly don't need to interfere with a court order and risk opening a different can of worms.

I would just like to let everyone know I WON MY CASE! The judge ruled in my favor before I could even sit down. She switched the weekends & told my Ex he was being petty. My court hearing lasted less than two minutes.

I'm just happy my son will get to participate in such a happy day for both of us.

If you have switched dates for him before, and you can show that - texts, etc - then that will be in your favor.
Mediation is supposed to make this easier - if the mediator witnessed that he said you could switch that say if you gave up custody, that should show up in the report to the judge.

Boy bye! This was 7 years ago. Plus for your information, he took me to court and LOST! The judge chastised HIM for being selfish. You probably haven't planned a wedding before but sometimes certain dates are all that's available. My son was the ring bearer at our wedding. We celebrated and are still happily married. My selfish exi is not. You sound bitter sir. Let it go.