Ex wife wants to come to wedding

No, just no. My FH's ex is crazy and their son doesn't even know her because she has not been part of his life for the last 10 years! In a way I am lucky for that, but he has suffered because of this.

ABSOLUTELY NOT. I can almost guarantee you she is doing this on purpose to either make a scene, or start crap with people.

Why do I say this? I have seen it happen first hand and I was at a wedding where the ex crashed the wedding and showed up anyway and made a scene that was actually recorded by their videographer. When my cousin got remarried, his daughter was the flower girl. His ex-wife demanded that she be there to witness her daughter throw flowers for 30 seconds. He put his foot down and said no - well she showed up anyway - mid ceremony but after the flowergirl had walked - and slammed a chair in the back row to attract attention to herself and basically be a major embarrassment. The wedding video has this all on tape of her slamming and "adjusting" the metal folding chair for 15 minutes...At the other wedding I was at the ex attended the wedding basically as a "kind gesture to serve as a baby sitter". Hell no that was not what happened at all. She got drunk then tried to take the kids home with her...they almost had to call the police.

Hell no! One of my best friends had a wonderful relationship with her son's father and his now wife. They didn't even entertain the idea of her going to the wedding. Even in the best relationships with exes and new spouses, there is a line that should not be crossed!!!

Nope, you don't have to invite anyone you don't want to.

I agree, don't invite anyone that would make you feel uncomfortable. I get along great with my ex, for the most part, and I would never consider inviting him. I don't understand why an ex would even want to be invited.

I agree with tatiana. say that the final count is in and you cannot accomodate anyone else. she is welcome to see the video and photos.

That's awkward. There is no reason your FH's ex wife should be attending your wedding. I know that as a parent, she might want to see her kids done up and participating in the wedding, but it's really inappropriate for her to invite herself along!

I would have your FH talk to her. Explain that it would make you and some of the guests uncomfortable, but you would be happy to send pictures and/or video if she would like. That way she gets to see the kids perform, but not be there.

No way in hell.

How old are the children and where are they going after the wedding?

Are they young enough to need their mommy or would they be happy if grandparents watched them?

Hell no! that's so rude of her to ask....

Neither of us have any ex-spouses, but I'm pretty sure that it would be a big, fat NO on that for me.

I have been to two weddings where they had ex-spouses and children with those ex-spouses and, whilst those children were involved in the wedding, the ex-spouses knew to stay at home for that one.

Omg I told my FH I WAS REAING FORUMS AND TOLD HIM ABOUT THIS ONE AND HE SAID THAT HIS EX WILL PROBABLY TURN UP AT THE CHURCH TO SEE THEIR DAUGHTER . She is so not invited to the wedding but I guess there is nothing I can do about the church. Sorry about the caps too lazy to fix it lol so I kind of know how you feel u really don't want any exs there either.

No. At the most innocent it's awkward; and the other end of the spectrum, it's evil and confusing and possibly embarrassing for everyone.

I get wanting to see your kids in the wedding.

but the bride and groom should not have fucked anyone in attendance at any point in time.

No,no,no and hell to the no and F no. Let you're FH deliver the news, work something out so she be able to see her kids before the wedding but the answer is no.

Yea, um...no. This is something your future husband must deal with.

Thanks for all the advice. I'm not worried about her trying to keep the kids from us that weekend since it will be on his regularly scheduled weekend for visits. We get them every other weekend. If she does try, she can deal with the police. They are 6 and 3 and love staying with their Nannie and Pawpaw so I'm not worried about them "needing" her at the wedding. I guess at this point I'm scared that when we tell her no, she will be spiteful and show up anyway or when we pick the kids up for the weekend, our daughters hair will be dyed some outrageous color. She's bad about putting red and teal streaks in her hair....ugh!

We're old, we have several ex's. My ex, whom I detest is welcome to the wedding. I would like nothing more than watching him see me be happy. FH's most recent ex would also be welcome, but I doubt she would want to come. His high school sweetheart? Now that another story. That bitch was a big part in breaking us up years ago. She can go...You get the idea.

No way, my ex-boyfriend wanted an invite, but I told him I couldn't and he understood. Also, FH's ex wife has talked about being there mainly because we live in upstate NY and his kids live in Georgia. So she would in effect be " bringing the kids". I have said no to that stating the kids can be watched over at the wedding and reception by FH's family. But knowing how evil the ex wife is, she probably won't allow the kids to come up at all. So it's going to be a disaster.