Engagement Party Question

Welcome to WW, Brenna! Asking for money is rude. You're basically asking other people to finance your wedding, which is tacky and rude. If you guys aren't able to afford what you want now, either postpone until you can save up to what you want, or scale back to an intimate wedding with just your absolutely closest friends and family and have cake and punch with them.

For an engagement party, shower or the wedding, asking for money is a no no, especially to try and cover costs. People are likely to give money without you even asking (and some that are physical gift givers will do that regardless of your desires), but you have to spend your own money first.

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Usually parents throw your engagement party. It is not proper etiquette to throw your own.

Personally, I think it is rude to have a money tree at any party (unless it is a fund raiser for a charity).

Have the wedding that the 2 of you can afford. Have a small gift registry and guests will get the hint to give you a $$ gift. And no, you can't include the registry info with the invitations to the wedding.

Start saving money, cut your guest list down to a bare minimum, and budget, budget, budget.

You cannot do that at any party. At an engagement party you typically won't get money either. It's more like gifts for a home, pic frames, gift cards, wine, etc. Maybe you should consider pushing your wedding back until you save more or have a smaller wedding like Nancy suggested.

Yep asking for money is rude.

many engagement parties I have been to you don't even bring a gift, you just come join the bride an groom and say congrats.

If you live in a place Jack and Jills are acceptable then plan one of those.

They are very common in Ontario (Canada) and made us about $2500, but many places do'nt know what these are and they arn't common.