Engagement party invitation wording

OP - other than hosting your own party (it's a bit mixed since you can host your house warming but apparently some people think you shouldn't host your own engagement party).

Anyways I'd say just invite everyone to a house warming and surprise them with an engagement announcement that day.

No need to tell people how long to come and go, most parties we have nowadays, people show up whenever and leave whenever.

I didn't know that about no gifts! I've seen people put that on invitations for various events but I feel like just not stating anything about a registry should be enough to deter at least most people from bringing one. And if anyone asks about a registry maybe just say we aren't expecting gifts but thank you for thinking of us?

Don't have an engagement party, it's a waste. I'm saying this bc we had one.

Why was yours a waste? I feel like what I have planned will be pretty solid and hard to not enjoy. You can't have a bad time if there's a mimosa bar!

@ Sarah That sounds like a good plan. Also, you really should not have a registry for an engagement party anyway. It is not a gift giving event like a shower. At most you will likely receive wine, picture frames, or something personally picked out by the guest. It is for this reason that I disagree with most posters on this forum that hosting an engagement party for oneself is against etiquette.

Traditionally, the bride's family hosted the engagement party for both families to meet each other. When that was true, the bride's mother and sisters would be in breach of etiquette for hosting a bridal shower because it would be a self-serving request for gifts. However, since brides are no longer chattel of their father and have their own identities, most people have accepted it is not rude for the bride's mother and sisters to host showers. It logically follows that a bride hosting her own engagement party would be well within the proper scope of etiquette. But that only applies if you truly treat it as an engagement party and not as a party intending to receive gifts.

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@kirackle that's another excellent point! My fiancé and I are independent people who can celebrate however we see fit. Another thing I was thinking about is that my bridal party and parents are doing so many other things for me with the bachelorette party, bridal shower and general wedding planning. It wouldn't feel right to sit around and hope that they throw me an engagement party!

I did the same engagement party and house warming , it went so great , I design the invitation my self putting our picture and then I wrote it is engagement party and house warming and I have time to start and end it was completely ok with every body then I sent it email to every body and every body came and enjoyed

Girl go for it just plan it right and don't forget the photographer, it is the most important thing of course

This is my invitation to have an idea

I love it! Thank you so much! I'm happy to see someone else had the same idea!