Engagement Party Guest list

She said she has a host but was planning most of it herself. Not sure if having a host means they are throwing it... I planned most of mine but my Mom threw the party. Either way- hosting people properly can cost a lot of money. I suggest you cut the list if you are concerned with budget.

Here comes @EW with the money again

Erin, be sure to read ALL the posts. Especially from the original poster.

"We were planning our own engagement party, we had no idea that someone else was supposed to throw it".

Don't plan your own engagement party. Don't invite over 111 people to your engagement party. Don't ask your bridal party right now. You don't need an 18 person bridal party.

1. Don't plan your own engagement party.

2. 111 people sounds insane. 50 sounds insane to me.

If no one throws the party for you, you shouldn't have one. And, if you invite 111 people to the party, you just locked in 111 invitations to the wedding. That could make future budgeting and cuts incredibly difficult. Could your parents or his parents host a small dinner party with just your immediate families and absolute closest of friends? That could be a nice compromise.

Ugh!!! I am just telling her that having a large engagement party can be expensive. I pretty much planned my own I guess. My Mom threw it but I took care of all the details. I'm a control freak what can I say.

Planning your own is tacky.

Erin, the difference is someone threw it for you. They're planning to plan and throw their own then have someone else be the host. Not how it works.

I see the difference Wedding. Yeah you really shouldn't do that. Wait for someone to offer to throw you a party. You can still help with details.

Thanks ladies his mom and aunt offered and I felt bad and just thought it would was a lot to take on. I didn't know that someone else was supposed to throw it. Actually we have family helping but I thought it was up to us to get the venue and pay for it. But we have family members that are taking care of the cake and the food. We have a host and we we're going to be helping when needed. So I guess it's more like a team effort. But I guess I'll have to hand the Reigns over to my mother-in-law and other family members. Like I said I have no idea about any of this and I appreciate all of u ladies y'all have really helped me out a lot

One more question, a lot of y'all said I started to earlier. I was just trying to get a jump start didn't want to wait to the last minute

Yes, don't ask your bridal party too early. We advise to ask at about 6-8 months before the wedding. You just don't know what's going to happen with your relationships over two years. It's just asking for trouble.

Being from southern Louisiana I know how quickly engagement parties and guest lists in general can get out of hand, my best advice is to start learning to say "no." Remember you still may possibly be asked for guest list input to a bridal shower, then add a few guests more to the wedding....it can spiral pretty quickly. The way I kept my family and FH family in check as far as the guest list went, was to very carefully and very politely remind them of the cost per person.

Victoria, I think the only thing people feel that you started too early was selecting your BP. A lot can change in relationships (and life) in two years, and once you ask someone to be in your BP you cannot take it back. At least once week, if not more, we have brides on here sharing their story about wishing they would have waited to ask because the relationship changed. Also, life happens (i.e., pregnancy, moves, finances) and it may change you BPs ability to be in the wedding as you get closer to the date.

You can certainly use that guest list for the Big Day but you can't be certain those same folks will even be invited yet. By having an E party with 110 people, you're locking yourself into a wedding with at least that many people. I understand that your FH has lots of special people- and they can certainly celebrate with you on the wedding day. But for an e party, you should really cut back. Unless money is no object...

Thank u Ms. MRose and we are from south Louisiana. I'm trying to tell that to my FH and he doesn't want anyone to feel left out. That's why our list is so long. But I will let him read all the great advice we've gotten from this blog. Y'all just don't know how much help I've gotten. I'm glad I joined

Southern Louisiana here as well, and I'm sitting here trying to keep my wedding guest list from creeping to 500. It's a different world here, I'm convinced. We are not having an engagement party because I'm having so much trouble with our wedding guest list. I don't want to get tied down this early.

Also, FH is from California, and is constantly shaking his head at the sheer number of people I've stayed in touch with since childhood.

Yes so I'm not alone lol. But we will be cutting that list because it is just way to many people