Engagement Party Guest list

My wedding will not even have 110 guests. Also, don't throw your own engagement party. It's tacky. Also, engagement parties aren't even necessary so you technically don't need one. But holy crap that is a lot of people. If someone insists on throwing one for you, I would cut that list to about a fifth of that. And you have to invite everyone thats at the engagement party to the wedding.

How many people will be invited to the wedding? Everyone invited to the engagement party should also be on your invite list for your wedding. Eta: are you throwing your own engagement party?

Way. Too. Many. People.

Are you planning on inviting these 100+ people to the wedding? I would keep the engagement party to close family and friends only. Also, you should not be hosting your own engagement party. If someone offers then great.

Wayyyyyy too many. I'd invite immediate family, potential BP, and close friends only

I had my engagement party yesterday and we had 50 adults and about 20 kids. It was so much fun! It's a lot of people and pretty difficult to visit with everyone. I wouldn't change it though. Just stick to closest family members and closest friends. That's what we did. Good luck!!

We were planning our own engagement party, we had no idea that someone else was supposed to throw it. And our wedding guests list will probably be about 200 people. He has a huge family he has like 10 aunts and uncles from his mom and dad. I feel like it is too many people for the engagement party, I feel like it should be close family and friends plus wedding party. Oh and by the way our wedding party is 9 bridesmaids and 9 groomsmen. This wedding is gonna be expensive. Please help me ladies

We have a host but we were planning most of it ourselves

Have you already picked and asked your BP members?

We invited about 70 to the engagement party and had 60 come. It was a great ammount for our venue. We limited it only to family who lives in the area, family friends who have been part of our lives forever, and about 5-10 friends each. It ended up being great! I would say just try to come up with some sort of cut off because you don't want your engagement party to outshine your wedding

We can't help you. You can only help yourself in this situation. If you feel as if it will be too expensive, CUT BACK. You don't need a 200 person wedding or an 18 person bridal party. I know it's hard, but there are ways to cut the list. You have to be realistic about your budget and guest list. ETA BeachDreams is right, if you've already asked your bridal party you can't cut that back.

Do NOT plan it yourself.

Mine was about 40 people. We had the bridal party, parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, and cousins.

@OP, for sure it'll be expensive to properly host 200 people. Money saving tip #1 don't throw your own engagement party. Save that money for the wedding BTW that is a large bridal party.

Way too much going on for a Sunday. You don't plan your own engagement party. You asked your BP too early. The best way to cut your expenses is to cut your gust list.

We didn't even have 100 people at our wedding. I feel like that's too much for an engagement party.

And why does everyone on here assume people are throwing their own parties?? I'm sure she's not. She's simply asking a question about the guest list. My Mom threw my party but asked me for the guest list. Is that not common?

Erin, she said herself she was throwing the party...

Oh yeah..just saw your post. You really aren't supposed to throw your own party. If someone else is hosting it and you are just helping to plan I don't think that's a problem. My Mom hosted and paid for everything but I ordered the invitations and took care of picking out the catering. My mom would have done all of that if she had to but she asked me to do it so I did.

EW, read the OP's second post.