Engagement disaster?!

FH proposed to me at home a week after I gave birth to our son. I was lying in bed with our son, when FH starts rummaging around in his closet. Then he said he said he had to go to the bathroom. About 15 minutes later, he comes out, walks over to my side of the bed, and gets down on one knee. I said yes, obviously, but the entire time all I could think was, "I really hope he washed his hands...."

I already knew he was going to ask me to marry him before I got pregnant, but he decided to wait until I wasn't so swollen so that I could actually wear the ring.

We bought the ring about a week before we actually got engaged and it was just sitting in the closet. I was getting really stressed out about it. We went to the sand dunes on Lake Michigan one day and I was sure it was not going to happen that day, so I thought nothing of it. We decided we were going to climb this huge sand dune, which was a huge mistake. I didn't even make it to the top before I started throwing up. So we finally get to the bottom of this hill and he says "you know, I was going to do it up there..." So I basically ruined my own proposal. So then he just did it when we got home in the living room hahaha.

My husband proposed twice. The first was sweet, but he proposed more on impulse and it was unplanned, so there was no ring at the time. Let's just say that where he proposed made for a story that you can never tell your grandparents.

I was still happy, but he found out from a friend that though I was very happy to be marrying him, I was disappointed because he didn't have any kind of ring to put on my finger. Since I had to leave out so many details of the when where and how, it was coming off to many that I was unhappy.

So one day we were riding the light rail and he got me off the train at a stop that has this neat water fountain. He got down on one knee and proposed again. Makes me smile so big when I think about it, and that's the story I tell everyone. I just smile and laugh to myself when I don't tell about the first proposal.

We have 2 "proposal" stories, the true one and the one we tell people. The true one isn't a disaster but not one that I usually share. (Its a little long, sorry).

DH and I moved in together more quickly then either of us wanted or had expected. When DH and I started dating, I shared an apartment with my sister and nephew. My sister and I started arguing a lot and after a big blow up, we decided I should move out. I had planned on finding my own apartment but DH said that as I spend most of my time at his apartment I may as well move in with him (we had been dating about 2 months by then). Shortly after that my sister started dating someone and sister ended up getting married after she and the man had been together about 4 months (for personal reasons they decided a quick marriage was the best for them). I think that the speed of the relationships "spooked" DH because right after their marriage, DH decided "no relationship changes until next January" (he words and they were said in June so a little over 6 months). I took it to mean that in January we would look at our relationship and discuss/decide what (if any) changes we would make in our relationship.

January came and went and no conversations and nothing to make me think a change would be coming. Our birthdays are in February so I thought maybe he would propose around our birthdays or on Valentine's Day but nothing. By this point, I asked him what he was thinking about our future and he said he wasn't certain yet. I asked him if there were issues I wasn't aware of and he said no but he was weary of marriage at all because he had seen too many divorces and wanted to be 100% certain before making a decision.

At the beginning of March, at an event one of his friends sought out one of my friends and told her to talk to me and tell me to not mention marriage to DH again. That made me so angry. First, I didn't appreciate his friend putting himself into our relationship (I checked and DH didn't ask his friend to get involved). But more importantly I felt like if DH wasn't willing to discuss our relationship with me he shouldn't be talking about our relationship with other people. March ended and no discussions about where we were headed. (I didn't specifically expect a proposal but I did want to know if DH was as committed as I was).

About the middle of April, a friend of DH posted a hello on Facebook and DH (who really didn't know much about Facebook) proceeded to have a "conversation" with her on his wall about marriage and mentioned his girlfriend "pressuring him" to propose. For me that was the final straw. Not only was he talking about our relationship with other people but now it was on Facebook for everyone to see. I told him that if after 16 months if he couldn't even consider our future he needed to let me know because I wasn't willing to wait forever. He said that he was sure he wanted to spend his life with me but his ideal timing was date for 2 years with a one year engagement. I told him that not everything would be on his timeline and compromise would be needed. After a 4 hour discussion we set a date so that was our "proposal" story. (Yes, essentially a blow up resulted in DH asking me to marry him which is why its not the story we tell people). DH did ask me to wait to tell anyone we were engaged until he got me a ring. I said yes.

After 2 weeks, I told him I wanted to start looking at venues and things like that and I didn't want to wait to let people know that we were engaged and we set the following Saturday to go ring shopping. He ended up proposing (with a ring on one knee) 2 days before we had planned to go shopping.

My fiancé and I got into a huge fight before he proposed. I finished up class and we planned on going to dinner later on in the evening but I was so hungry that I begged that we go out to eat earlier. We got into a fight because of my hangry attitude and he kept saying "you ruined my plans" I said "what plans!?!? Let's just eat" so long story short, we went out to eat. Before stopping home we got some ice cream and took a walk on the beach and that's where he proposed. He had it all planned to do it at sunset in front of the lighthouse after dinner. But since I forced us to get dinner so early, plus it was like 90 degrees plus super muggy, his plans got scratched. He still teases me about it to the day. But hey, don't mess with a hungry woman

Theresa. Funny thing is. Before FH proposed he told me I was pressuring him. And I knew he felt pressured bc my sister got engaged the month before and they were together a little over a year. We've been together almost 4. He finally came out and was like ok let's go look at rings. Two days later he proposed!

I always rag on FH because he didn't actually ASK me or get down on one knee. We had a cookout with all of our family/friends and he got up, said a thanks to everyone for coming, and then said "Kim I just have one question". He pulled out the ring and just stared at me. I grabbed the ring, put it on myself and gave him a hug! Lol, definitely not a disaster by any means but also not the "dream proposal" standard. Worked for us!

The actual proposal went great, but the second FH got down on one knee, my mom started marathon calling me to tell me that my brothers drill team won regionals and was going to state. Oops.

Mine just asked "You want to get married?" I just looked at him and asked if he just asked me to marry him. I was thinking this was a future kind of thing. LOL He said, "Well, I just said, do you want to get married?" He had no ring, no going down on a knee, no nothing. I said "Yes!" then proceeded to get really nervous. We decided to use my aunt's rings she left to me as my ring.

A couple of months later I totally freaked out and cancelled the wedding we had planned for 10/2015. It took another year before I was ready to talk about marriage again. So, no, I don't think it's a sign. Just a little weird luck that your finger swelled up and you can laugh about this as time goes by.

Meanwhile, I had a diamond reset in a beautiful new setting that I picked out. I gave him the box and he took it out. He went down on one knee and asked, "Will you still marry me?" His beautiful face full of love and expectancy. I felt giddy like it was the first time he asked. I'm such a sucker for romance.

The other day he saw my ring on a table and he came over to put it on me and said, "With this ring I thee wed." Yup, I'm a soft touch. Ahhhhh, love that man.

Dreamer thats cute! I totally understand about freaking out. I knew I wanted to marry FH but once we were officially engaged, I went into panic mode and shut down. Freaked out and was not even excited to plan. We got engaged in January and didn't even talk about it til April! We both weren't happy with the traditional church wedding, huge reception, etc, but never told each other, then it came out and we planned a DW down in Florida, but decided to just get married at home and a smallish- we tried to keep it at 100, but @ 135 momentarily- ceremony/reception in one place. Now, were both happily planning our 5/2017 wedding.

Ours wasn’t so much a disaster but it definitely didn’t go as planned. So to start, I love Christmas. Love it. October 1st is spent hauling out the decorations and listening to Christmas music. It’s bad. Anyway, I had mentioned before that my dream proposal would be at Christmas time at night with pretty lights and all that good stuff.

Well, we went ring shopping in April/May and I found my dream ring and it was perfect, so FH bought it. Now his original plan was to propose at Christmas but since I knew he had the ring I’m only assuming he didn’t want to wait another 7 months and listen to me pester him constantly so he proposed on May 24th.

We’re both youth leaders at church and that night we had youth group. FH had given me a hint earlier that day in a card. I had expressed to him after our 1st anniversary that I had been a little upset that he never got me a birthday/valentines/anniversary card because I love special handwritten notes from him. So days before the proposal he gave me a box with my favorite candy and three cards I was meant to open at specific times. The card I opened on the 24th said “Walking in a winter wonderland tonight?” so I had a clear idea I was getting proposed to. Our church has a plaza behind it with a bunch of trees wrapped in white Christmas lights. His plan had been to propose out there with a mini Christmas tree after youth group, but it started raining that afternoon.

So anyway, I knew I was getting proposed to so I did my hair and makeup and tried to look really nice. I had no idea it was going to rain. Now because of the rain, FH had to think of a new place to propose. So after youth ended he sent me outside to do pick up with the students, in the rain, while he set up the mini Christmas tree on the stage inside the church. So I was really annoyed because I had on flip flops and my hair was getting all messed up and I was freezing, so I completely forgot about the proposal. I needed to go inside to help a student find a package that had arrived for his mom, and I asked another youth leader to stay with the kids outside and he ran after me inside and left the kids outside, so I was annoyed and honestly wanted to punch that guy in the face for not staying with the kids (there's a bar down the street and there can be creepers so it's super important to keep them safe if we're outside).

By the time the kids left I was not in a good mood and I literally completely forgot about everything. So when I walked in the sanctuary and saw FH on the stage I was genuinely surprised. He stood in front of the tree and the ring was in a little gift box underneath. He gave a little speech and was trying not to cry and then he got down on one knee and proposed. All of our friends were watching from upstairs so afterwards they all ran down the stairs screaming. It was actually pretty perfect but yeah beforehand not so much lol

Ours wasn't a disaster, but it wasn't quite what either of us pictured. But isn't that how life goes sometimes?

It's a family ring so he got it from his dad when he went home for Christmas. He had been planning all year to get it then and propose over the holidays. But, right before the holidays we went through something really sad and he knew it wasn't the time. So, he waited two months until my birthday, the day before Valentine's Day. We went to dinner at a winery, where he planned to propose. But, another couple we know what there and we (I) talked to them the whole time and it wasn't quite the right ambiance. So we get home and I was tipsy and do what I always to when I get home after too many drinks- take off my bra and pants. We were sitting on the couch watching some random movie and he finally was like "Just pause it. I'm done waiting." The whole time I was like "but I don't have pants...."

Honestly, I think it's absolutely adorable when things like that happen. I feel like it turns into a romcom. :-) It will definitely be something to laugh about 20 years from now.

FH BIL got a huge kick out of it. He just kept taking pictures in the hospital and keeps threatening to show them at the wedding!

JoRocka - That story is nuts!

My FH and I moved to oahu six months before he proposed. I had been bugging him about marriage for a few weeks, at this point we have been together 6+ years and I just moved across the country,it was time. He wanted to hike Diamond Head for his birthday, his birthday is in July. You see where this is going, right? He was pushy and rushing to get to the top, I wasn't in a good mood. I was still pissed about the false proposal the month before where I got a bracelet. I actually had given up on the idea of ever being married, or getting proposed to. Fast forward hiking the mountain with this creepy ass Swedish kid and his family staring at me the whole way up I'm being bitchy because it was soo hot (july 31) and it was a difficult hike for me. Finally make it to the top, it is breathtaking. Never noticed he got down on one knee or that he was talking to me. He thanked me for sharing in his adventures, and invited me to share his last name. I panicked and started laughing/crying hysterically and asking was he serious. After 5 minutes he said, "well,aren't you gonna say something?" I told him yes! Went we got back to the car he told me he almost waited because of my attitude,the heat, and that weird ass kid. He thought the whole thing was hilarious!

I knew my FH ordered my ring but he said it would take 2 weeks to come in. Well we had already started planning the wedding and booking venue before he actually proposed. Well it was kinda chilly that day and we both got off work and wanted to to take the Harley some where. I called my parents to see if they were home and they were. So we rode over there and stayed about 2 hours. I finally told him I wanted to leave because I was hungry. He went outside and my mom said I thought you had something to show me. I said no I don't the ring yet. I walked outside and told my FH what my mom said as I was laughing and he started the bike. I started getting on and he said it needs to warm up I thought okay whatever. So we stand around the bike for about 10 minutes and he gets down on one knee and says its your lucky day will you marry me? I of course said yes but I am laughing while saying it and then out walks my dad with the trash. I went in and showed my mom and she wasn't to happy he didn't tell her before so she could of gotten a picture.

My engagement was sweet and special (at least to me). I was leaving my job to go to prayer service at the church, I saw him waiting by the gates. While we heading to the bus stop, he went down on his knee in the middle of the street and proposed. I'm pretty sure there were garbage can nearby but I don't care. I didn't have any picture taken to remember the moment but one thing I know is I'm as engaged as everyone else. He proposed, I said yes that's all that matters!

Nahhh that's not a sign. It's just not like the movies! Ha

My fiancé told told me he was going ring shopping (out of the blue) and then kept dropping hints like he actually bought something. We were a couple of weeks away from Christmas so I finally said did you buy me a ring and are you going to propose to me on Christmas? He half smiled and said how did you know? REALLY??? He couldn't play it off or anything? Nope. He just came out and said that was the plan. But he did say he was going to make me wait now that I knew and he was going to mess with me by getting down on one knee and then not proposing.

Fast forward to Christmas. I assumed since I knew he wasn't going to do it. So did he? Yup. Christmas morning. I said something to the effect of him making me wait and he said he didn't know what else to get me for Christmas so he had no choice ... And he was really nervous and had to get it over it. Lol

Definitely not perfect but I love him and I'm getting married!! Ha just remember that.

My proposal was perfect, but my sister's wasn't the greatest. It was right after tax time, and she had spent her tax return fixing up their kitchen. He was shopping for snowmobile gear online. She started an argument with him about money, and he kept talking about how it was his money to spend how he wanted to. She wouldn't back down, so he finally screamed "I'M HAVING A RING MADE FOR YOU!" And they just celebrated their 10th anniversary!