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Engaged bridesmaids?

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Sarah, on December 25, 2019 at 2:27 PM

How many of you have had a member of your bridal party be engaged at the same time? I’m still about 6-9 months out from getting properly engaged (we’ve discussed it as a couple) and a good 2 years out from getting married, but my sister has started making noise about wanting to be engaged to her current boyfriend.

I love her boyfriend and would fully support them, and I know they’ll wait at least another year before getting engaged because they’re moving in together soon and agreed that they need to make it to the end of a lease and be sure they can live together before taking any other steps.
I’ve always planned on asking her to my my MOH, but now I’m worried that she might be engaged at the same time as me. I want to mentally prepare in case it happens, so—has anyone had an engaged MOH or bridesmaid? How has it gone for you? How did y’all make it work?

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Just Said Yes February 2021
Hailey · on December 25, 2019 at 8:30 PM
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I got engaged and within 3 days my brother had proposed to his girlfriend. As we have started wedding planning it has been difficult for our families (financially and commitment wise). I do hope it gets better.
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Ali · on December 25, 2019 at 9:06 PM
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One of my bridesmaid is engaged as well and I’m a bridesmaid for her! It’s actually exciting having someone to go through it with but it’s important to have your own moments too!
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Rose · on December 25, 2019 at 10:45 PM
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Two of my bridesmaids just got engaged and I could not be happier for them. They decided to space their weddings apart almost a year from mine but even if it were sooner I would be just as happy for them. It’s fun to be able to plan together, share tips and such.
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Taylor · on December 26, 2019 at 9:26 AM
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I don't think it should matter at all. My MOH doesn't even live on the same continent as me. They are not in any way obligated to plan your wedding with you. Their only obligation is showing up in the dress you choose on your wedding day. An engaged person should be able to handle that.
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Kari · on December 26, 2019 at 12:32 PM
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As long as there is ample time between the two wedding dates, I wouldn't anticipate it impacting anything, unless one or both involve a lot of travel. Personally, I would want probably four weeks of free time before my own wedding, but would probably be fine attending a wedding just 2-3 weeks after mine.

One of my really good friends who now lives on the other side of the country became engaged shortly before we did. Our weddings are going to be the same day so she won't be at my wedding or in my bridal party, which is a bit of a bummer, but unless we wanted to have a wedding a different time of year it wasn't going to work because neither of us wanted to travel across the country a week or two before or after our own wedding.

We had other friends who shifted their date by a year because they had a sibling getting married and the family is spread out all over the country, so they didn't want family members to have to make a big trip twice in the same year.
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Mw · on December 26, 2019 at 5:05 PM
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I got engaged 5 months after my best friend and we are each others MOHs. My wedding is 9 months after hers. The timing was perfect for us because we both got our own “honeymoon period” for our engagements, and it is so much fun having someone to plan with who is equally interested in wedding planning as you, in that moment in time.

As long as the events are appropriately spaced, it’s no big deal!
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Lauren · on December 27, 2019 at 12:47 AM
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My MOH got engaged in the middle of my 2 year engagement and shes also having a 2 year engagement. She has been so helpful and supportive the entire time! And just asked me to he her bridesmaid today! I'm so excited! It shouldn't negatively effect anything at all!!
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on December 27, 2019 at 12:17 PM
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A groomsman got engaged around same time. We had our weddings in the same month.
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VIP November 2019
Catherine · on December 27, 2019 at 2:10 PM
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Well her as your MOH doesn't have to do anything besides get her dress and be there on your wedding day. they MOH isn't responsible for any wedding planning (unless you ask if she can help) so i don't see it interfering with your day. as long as you guys don't pick the same wedding day i'm sure you will be okay!
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Haley · on December 27, 2019 at 2:55 PM
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One of my bridesmaids (who is my FH cousin) got engaged like 3 months after I asked her to be a BM. I told her after she got engaged that I would totally understand if she needed to not be a BM anymore because she now had her own commitments. She said she could make it work.
She set her date 3 weeks after mine.
She then asked me to be a BM for her. I told her I would totally do it but to remember that our showers and bach parties couldn't overlap and it could get expensive. She said no prob, we will kinda schedule around each other.
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