Emily Post and Honeymoon/Cash Registries

Abbie, it should be better here. It is something that could be fixed instead of inventing brand new things that pretty much no one has ever asked for. I'll spare you the tale of the pro forum, but for all the 'reaching out' to us and all the surveys, nothing ever changed (and I'd be delighted to be proven wrong in that statement). And now it's gone. Because most of the pros I know, at least, stopped posting.

The problem with no one posting because they've posted on the topic before is that what you're left with is the new leading the new and a very quiet forum.

@Jennifer - It isn't silently asking for money to have a honeyfund - it is actively asking for money.

Also having the name of a travel agent guests can book an actual excursion through is significantly different then load a website - like zola for instance - clicking on the box that says snorkling adventure, paying 150 dollars and then have a check for less that amount be mailed to the couple three weeks later.

That's a huge difference.

Also it isnt "perceived" as rude to actively ask for money. It is rude. Do you ask your coworkers for five bucks for lunch? Do you ask your parents to pay your phone bill? No because it would be rude.

I believe if you are going to straight up ask for money as part of your celebration (like honey funds, etc.) why not just sell tickets to the wedding. Be up front with your intentions, that way you also know everyone who attended paid something. They seem like the same thing to me - a solicitation of money.

There are two scenarios for those who "don't need anything":

1) Have a honeyfund and no registry: Aunt Pam who always gives a physical gift will still give you something - likely something you don't want, and you will get cash for your honeymoon (at the expense of their 5% and definitely some side-eyeing from guests)

2) Have a small registry - you will get some nice upgrades and 100% of any gifted cash - and probably no side-eyes.

@Munchkin I wasn't talking about the honey fund - I get the tackiness of that. I meant when someone registers for their honeymoon excursions with a travel agent and that info is included on the shower invitations.

Again, I wasn't disagreeing with the fact that it's rude - my post was not meant to argumentative.

You may want to edit your post for clarity then - the words register for a honeymoon immediately makes me think they got a honeyfund. Just saying the way it is worded now sounds pro - honeyfund which if you did not mean that then it may come off that way to other posters. Just a heads up.

@O&S - on point for the meme as always lmao

ETA: Words/Clarity