Eloping Dilemma .

Not wrong at all. Totally your choice

It is not wrong at all! I have considered it myself too when I was first starting to plan because there was already a ton of drama happening before we even had a date set. But my FH and I really want a wedding and celebrate with the rest of the family that is excited about our wedding! So we are not letting the drama bring us down and we are doing what we want.

If you and your FH dread having and planning a wedding, then there is nothing wrong with eloping! It is completely your choice! Do what ever makes you and your FH happy!

2024? Honestly, you have time to make that decision, but we do probably close to 100 elopements a year, from 2 people to about 20 ish. If your goal is to be married without the drama that is just under the surface for many families that's the way to go.

(The reason I put 2024 as my year is because we keep changing our minds)

Go for it do whatever you want to do.

Sloping was my dream wedding. My partner, Kevin, wants the big white wedding. I think I'd you and your partner can agree on sloping then go for it! It can be SO romantic and meaningful. Maybe prep for backlash from some people when you get back, but remember, setting those boundaries is a responcible thing to do (just be nice about it!). Best of luck!

That thought crossed my mind. talked to my FH bc the guest list was getting too long and the price was going up up up and I was just tired of trying to please us and everyone else. We took a step back and decided on a DW. ts within our budget and shortened the guest list and I'm sure not many will make that trip.

Maybe stepping back to reconsider the options would be good for you as well.

The Huffington Post has a great series of articles on eloping. I definitely see the draw and what so many couples are doing you don't even miss out on some of the little things you think you might miss.

Absolutely not! If that's all you want you're in no way obligated to throw a party!

One of the reasons FW and I are getting married just the two of us is to avoid some messy family drama. I'll let you know how it goes in a month!

If neither of you wants a big wedding then I don't see what the problem would be.

I think most engaged people entertain the idea of eloping at least briefly and some decide it is the right choice for them! You really have to ask yourself if you're planning the whole big wedding because it's what you and your FS want, or because you feel family/societal pressure to do so. Weddings come in all shapes and sizes, and at the end of the day you are not any more or less married in the eyes of the law.

We were going to elope, before he decided to propose with the ring and all and tell his parents, my family. And well, now everyone is expecting a wedding and I am enjoying the planning process, deposit is down, so no turning back for us. But I do think eloping is not only smart (financially) but can also be romantic!

I wanted to elope, but my husband really wanted a wedding. At the end of the day, I'm glad he talked me into a wedding. It was a blast. We didn't have any drama though. Do what feels right to you.

We thought about it but he really wanted this big wedding. I want to be married and if this makes him happy. I'm enjoying the planning process. I'm looking forward to it all as well.

My FH and I went back and forth between an intimate wedding of 25-30 people and a private wedding/eloping. We concluded that due to family drama and the fact that I get social anxiety even at family events (sometimes I can be found hiding out in a bedroom alone because I can't handle the stress) eloping works best for us. That being said, we may have my best friend present for moral support. We are going out of state to a place that is meaningful in nature to us, and when it was originally discussed with my side of the family for an intimate wedding most complained about finances to get there. It makes more sense to do something meaningful to us. We also are hiring a photographer and videographer so that we have those memories preserved and can show to the family at a later date. Our plan is to have a "reception" type event at a later date in warmer weather to celebrate with family. I feel sort of bad because my FH is the only child in his family so I still want to give his family a chance to celebrate. I on the other hand am the fourth child to get married in my family and my dad passed away right before I met FH so it's just different for me and I don't know if I could handle a huge wedding if I can't even handle a holiday event, but that is just me and my personal experience. You and your FH should do whatever is in your heart and not feel pressured by anyone else.

My dream wedding was an intimate elopement. He wants this big, Big, BIG fancy wedding with no holding back. We compromised with 100 people in a laid back venue. Still too big in my opinion but in the end of the day, the end game is we get married.

Do you plan to tell your families that you're getting married without them? My cousin and a girl that I know both eloped and told their families after, and I know that my family was devastated as was the girl's. I know that my family wouldn't have been upset if we had known they were eloping, but they hid it from everyone and we all found out the same time Facebook did.

@Sydney No my mother has literally threatened me if she wasn't at my wedding....aka drama

Nope. Go for it.