Eloping.. Bridal shower?

That is one of the sacrifices that you make by eloping. But with the money saved by not having a big wedding, you can buy some of the stuff you need.

I am by no means an expert in etiquette questions ... but my instinct would tell me that likely you would miss out on the traditional bridal shower. It would feel weird to have one to me.

You could still do a wedding registry and people might want to give you a wedding gift anyway?

And having one for your 5th anniversary ceremony/reception still seems like a good idea.

We have been living together for 8 years and both had houses before ... we still found planty of items to upgrade or simply stuff we had never bought before. As a matter of fact, after living together for some time you find out about the things you would need and realy enjoy. I.e. we found we love to entertain.

Or what Rev Anne said! Your friends might want to throw a party for you anyway!

I'm gonna go ahead and say that's probs a no!

I would say unless youre having a reception here I wouldn't do it, it looks like youre begging for gifts... and the way the post sounds it kind of sounds like youre expecting gifts which isn't what the whole wedding thing is about.

Michelle, you make a good point about the 'begging or gifts'. That is a point even with a formal reception.

If someone I knew was having a party on their 5th anniversary I'd be a little bit put off if they had a registry and even if their friends threw them a bridal shower five years after the fact.

I'd be okay if they threw you one now. That makes more sense. But, don't be surprised if nobody throws you one now.

I'm also eloping but not until next may (were probably doing it in Jamaica and need to plan accordingly as I have a child) keep in mind our situition is a little different because we are having a casual at home celebration/reception when we get back home mainly bc my son won't be on the elopment trip with us and we want him to feel included in things somehow but anywaymy point... I have a friend who has graciously offered her time to help plan our at home reception and even has even mentioned throwing a shower. I had just assumed I was just giving up a shower so I was actually shocked to hear her say that, I may end up telling her not to worry about it but I just wanted to bring it up to you to let you know that maybe one of your friends has also thought of still throwing you one too. Just becaiuse your eloping doesn't mean your friends wouldn't want to celebrate you

The shower should be thrown by some one else not you. If someone else wants to do it, then that's fine. But, people will think 5 years down the road is weird.

I think since you are eloping then you forgo the shower idea.

The shower is for people to shower you with gifts to help you start this new life with your husband. Since you will already be living with your husband almost 7 years by the time your 5 years rolls around you will already have upgraded your stuff.

I know if I got an invite to a shower after the couple were already married and have been married 5 years then I would see it as rude and being gift grabby and I wouldn't attended.