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Beginner April 2018

Eloping and wanting to make my dad still feel involved while not walking me down the aisle.

Skallia, on March 24, 2018 at 6:03 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8
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My FH and i are eloping. We are 25 and have been together for 7 years and we are not very traditional people and on top of that i am leaving for a month in the summer to the middle east for my career and with my FH's law enforcement career we both want to get on the same insurance and allow me to be on his will in case anything were to happen to him or me while we are apart. I never wanted or cared about a huge ceremony in a church or even with an audience (we are not religious) so eloping and having a vow renewal/celebration party later is what we are planning on. Here comes the problem and where ill need some ideas, my dad is my bestfriend and i love him more than anything. Im having trouble figuring out what i can do for my dad that will make him feel involved and loved while not walking me down the aisle. Bringing him along is not an option and i do not want to hurt his feelings or make him feel left out in anyway. Does anyone have any ideas on what i can do to make him feel involved and not left out?

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Latest activity by Skallia, on March 25, 2018 at 5:13 AM
  • Jessi
    VIP December 2017
    Jessi ·
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    Why can’t you bring him along? My suggestion was going to be to just have a couple people there with you (your dad being one) then going out for a nice lunch afterwards to celebrate. My friend just did that and moved the wedding back a week so her parents could be there.

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  • Forestwed
    Master May 2018
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    Could you walk down the aisle to his favorite song or use shoe bows so it’s like he’s there walking with you? They’re usually memorial bows but I think in this case it would still be a sentimental way of him walking down the aisle. Etsy sells them.

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  • S
    Beginner April 2018
    Skallia ·
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    We are road tripping there (we love road trips!) Its an 11 hr drive and i do not think he will want to take that drive. (He doesn't fly lol terrified of it.) Not to mention we are getting married in 2 weeks he really doesn't want to take that time off. He went through some cancer scares and used his vacation time to handle all of that. My sister said to do a family dinner before we leave, or have a mock "give away" before we leave, but i don't know of thats a good idea. I dont want to make him feel like we are giving him a fake moment or anything.
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  • S
    Beginner April 2018
    Skallia ·
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    That is a good idea i never thought of doing that. Ill give it some thought!
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  • FutureMrsR-M
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    I think the family dinner sounds like a great idea, but if the mock give away seems fake, you could instead make a toast to your dad. I think that would honor him and not feel fake in the slightest. And you could let him know ahead of time that he can make a speech at dinner if he wants.
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  • S
    Beginner April 2018
    Skallia ·
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    Yeah a speech would be a great idea. I did think the dinner would be nice i just want to do it right if that's what we end up doing. Maybe we could invite my FH's parents as well. Also i thought of having him walk me down when we do our wedding renewals, but again i just thought well who cares we are already married would it be the same? I really like the speech idea though.
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  • S
    Beginner April 2018
    Skallia ·
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    Will meaning not only his will but the legalities that come along with a death in his line of work. He could write me in, but it would go to next of kin to make sure he will get the funeral he wants, his property, life insurance, money, penton, that kind of stuff. Its important to him that i am in charge and legally apart of all that.
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